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Hello all, Let me start by saying I have looked for support and answers from family, friends, and my husband himself. I have not found what I am looking for as far as my answer or reasoning.
I have been married for nearly 6 months. Overall our relationship is good. The only issue is our sex life. Well I should say the lack of sex life. He just isn't intimate with me. He did tell me from the beginning that he had this type of issue in a past relationship. The fact that he does not pursue sex and is generally timid anytime the conversation of our sex life comes about is disturbing me. We have gone nearly three months without any type of sexual intimacy. He makes it seem as if it is a chore. I feel unattractive and as if he just doesn't want me. Sometimes I feel as if he even rejects me. So I just stopped trying. I have questioned why many times, he continues with the same response "I don't know why I am like this" or "I'm just not a sexual person". He says he is attracted to me and wants me. I know he isn't cheating, its just not his nature and he doesn't do anything to make me suspect that as being the reason. We have got into a few short conversations about this and he has told me this has always been an issue for him even in past relationships. Well his first marriage to be exact. In fact he was divorced because his ex-wife cheated on him because of this reason. Sometimes I even think he has less of a sex drive than me because of our age difference. He is 34 and I am 24. I just don't know what to think any more. This has became a huge issue for me and he seems to just sweep it under the rug. I don't know what to do any more. It has started to have affects on my self esteem. It has started to create what I see as a dreary environment sometimes. I know a relationship isn't just based upon sex but every relationship needs a certain level of intimacy and I feel as if we have none. I know he loves me but I don't understand why it seems as if he doesn't want me.
*I'm just so confused and I don't know what to do or how this could start to improve...:scratchhead:
I have been married for nearly 6 months. Overall our relationship is good. The only issue is our sex life. Well I should say the lack of sex life. He just isn't intimate with me. He did tell me from the beginning that he had this type of issue in a past relationship. The fact that he does not pursue sex and is generally timid anytime the conversation of our sex life comes about is disturbing me. We have gone nearly three months without any type of sexual intimacy. He makes it seem as if it is a chore. I feel unattractive and as if he just doesn't want me. Sometimes I feel as if he even rejects me. So I just stopped trying. I have questioned why many times, he continues with the same response "I don't know why I am like this" or "I'm just not a sexual person". He says he is attracted to me and wants me. I know he isn't cheating, its just not his nature and he doesn't do anything to make me suspect that as being the reason. We have got into a few short conversations about this and he has told me this has always been an issue for him even in past relationships. Well his first marriage to be exact. In fact he was divorced because his ex-wife cheated on him because of this reason. Sometimes I even think he has less of a sex drive than me because of our age difference. He is 34 and I am 24. I just don't know what to think any more. This has became a huge issue for me and he seems to just sweep it under the rug. I don't know what to do any more. It has started to have affects on my self esteem. It has started to create what I see as a dreary environment sometimes. I know a relationship isn't just based upon sex but every relationship needs a certain level of intimacy and I feel as if we have none. I know he loves me but I don't understand why it seems as if he doesn't want me.
*I'm just so confused and I don't know what to do or how this could start to improve...:scratchhead: