I assume this means that you had sex with him. Correct?He nice enough of course but definitely used me.
I assume this means that you had sex with him. Correct?He nice enough of course but definitely used me.
His child is old enough to fly unaccompanied if needed. There’s no telling where this will go so we definitely aren’t to that point. Believe me I do understand all these things are factors potentially.I believe he shares custody of a child so presumably he would need to live reasonably near the childs mother and childs school etc.
you hit the head on the nail. Unfortunately.I assume this means that you had sex with him. Correct?
I couldn't and wouldn't move 1000 miles away from my child but that's just me.His child is old enough to fly unaccompanied if needed. There’s no telling where this will go so we definitely aren’t to that point. Believe me I do understand all these things are factors potentially.
If I obsess over all the little details I might as well say forget it entirely.
my husbands children flew back and forth between their mom and dad when we relocated due to work. It is possible. Ideal? Not necessarily. Also, I don’t have family here. We moved herealmost three years ago. I have some great friends I’ve made and wonderful church family but beyond the at and my sons school beginning, im not hard pressed to stay here forever.
I wouldn’t either.I couldn't and wouldn't move 1000 miles away from my child but that's just me.
They haven’t even met yet and now planning for a move across the country? As I said before, put those horses back in the barn, y’all! That’s my best southern impression.I believe he shares custody of a child so presumably he would need to live reasonably near the childs mother and childs school etc.
They haven’t even met yet and now planning for a move across the country? As I said before, put those horses back in the barn, y’all! That’s my best southern impression.
Why unfortunately?you hit the head on the nail. Unfortunately.
Just a bad decision I wish I hadn’t made. I was distraught, emotionally wrecked and let my feelings rule me.Why unfortunately?
Thank you for your positive comment. Truly. We’re working on a date. Probably won’t be until next month I imagine once both our kids are back to school.Hey, when is he coming to meet you? Like, sometime soon?
just wanted to wish you luck. I hope you enjoy yourself spending time with him. I’ve read your previous threads. You’ve been through a lot. You could use a break and have something nice for a change.
March seems a little early to be dating after the trauma of a 15-year spouse suicide. You probably should be in therapy and asking your therapist when you should start dating AFTER you have emotionally healed from the death of your spouse......I met a guy through whisper by replying to a whisper he’d made.
.......he’s a Christian man, we often share bits of our Bible studies,
.......I was married for almost fifteen years to my LH who killed himself back in March.
.......While I know I need to be cautious, it would be easy to be preyed upon, everything has checked out thus far.
......he would stay in a hotel nearby, we’d meet up once my son is in school for the day, kind of date I guess you’d say. Feel each other out?
Thanks for the feedback.March seems a little early to be dating after the trauma of a 15-year spouse suicide. You probably should be in therapy and asking your therapist when you should start dating AFTER you have emotionally healed from the death of your spouse.
Speaking of emotional healing, you should be wondering about the emotional health of your school age son and how he might take to you starting to date within just a few months of his dad's death.
I think you are moving way too fast for both your sake and the sake of your son.
Good luck.
Have you met online yet? Skype, Teams, etc?I don’t even know if I’d call it dating. But, the run down is. I met a guy through whisper by replying to a whisper he’d made. I was in there posting my own rants, but we struck up a pen pal kind of situation, exchanging emails and have been emailing for a few months now.
he’s a Christian man, we often share bits of our Bible studies, what we read, what we got from it. We have the same values as far as children, politics, general character, ect yet, seem to be quite opposite in the same token. Which I don’t see as a bad thing, he’s just definitely out of the norm for me.
But what do I really know from the norm? I was married for almost fifteen years to my LH who killed himself back in March. This guy has been a great friend to me, he knows all the details of my past relationship with my husband. All of it and a little more I’ve not completely shared on here TBH.
I thought, wth, he’s a stranger and has great insight from the out looking in, I’ll spill my guts. Thought for sure by now he’s be running for the hills. He’s not and things have evolved lately in the last month and I’m kind of at a loss.
Now I know the right man will love me through the mess I’m in, won’t be afraid to be apart of healing and help me be even better than before. I know there are men out there like this. I just can’t imagine there’s one, 1000 miles away who interested in seeking me out. It’s crazy. But it’s happening.
While I know I need to be cautious, it would be easy to be preyed upon, everything has checked out thus far. We’ve spoken on the phone, added each other on FB, besides literally doing a background check, I don’t know what else more I could do to feel secure about this man. He wants to plan a trip to drive to meet me. His job is flexible as an IT professional and he would stay in a hotel nearby, we’d meet up once my son is in school for the day, kind of date I guess you’d say. Feel each other out?
Besides crushing my dream right off the bat, lol anyone else have any experience in this type of realm? I’ve never been on a dating site, still have ventured to set up a profile but I guess that’s simply because of where this seems to be headed?
Idk, I just wanted to share as I’m excited, I’m being as cautious as I can be and… I just don’t know?
Jumping in to answer this... she mentioned "Yes" to that here:Have you met online yet? Skype, Teams, etc?
We have video chatted yes. It’s not super often as my son is always around obviously and we are both in the same page of not introducing each other in any form to either kids unless we know there is something deeper to pursue.