It's only the two of you, so you should have a comfortable life taking home at least £100K. The house renovation madness has to stop. You just can't afford it. I'm afraid, you will have to put your foot down. If she doesn't like it, then she can have her P45! She might hate you for a while, but she'll get the message. If she doesn't, she is not the wife for you.Thanks. I've said exactly that. She thinks that i am just a free for all bank. I spend every penny I have on her and the house. I veave myself with hardly anything. Usually around £200ish a week. And this is to get to work on or sort stuff if it crops up. I am SERIOUSLY considering giving her her P45!
I have a spreadsheet that i use to track income and expenditure each week with a 6 week look ahead. So I know it's not me who can't budget. Then when she asks for more sometimes because of a birthday or something else, I give her that. I'm spending fortunes each week on the house to renovate it and get it how she wants it. working weekends on the house as well as my normal work. I'm a consultant so have a number of clients.
I know i'm not tight or unreasonable on money whatsoever. I'm not that sort of person and never would be. But when you consider she doesn't have to contribute to a single household bill and I even put fuel in her car, I don't think i'm being bad or unreasonable.