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Hey guys, I'm new here. My wife and I have been married for 5 months. We have been friends since 7th grade in high school. We went to college together and kinda got to where we didnt' talk much then. After we both moved back home after graduation, she wanted to start coming back to church with me and we ended up dating and getting married. We are very happy, and have only had a few little "spats". I think the reason we do argue when we do is because we are currently renting a smaller house until we have enough saved to buy, and we are always on top of each other. Other than that, we've never really had a major fight until this week.
Around a month or so after we got back from our honeymoon, a guy started work as a janitor at her hospital. She said she would pass him in the hall and he was very shy and never had any friends. Being the nice person she is, she just started saying hi and being a friend. They eventually started talking a little and found out they enjoy the same music and tv shows.
This eventually became a texting while at work thing. She told me about him and I didn't really have an issue. They would text about a new album coming out or something, and that was it. Nothing major.
This past week, however, I noticed she was constantly on her phone and her ringer was off. I noticed the guy's name every time she had a text message. I finally asked her if she knew I knew she was texting him. She said can I not have a conversation with someone without you getting jealous?
I'm never the jealous type and don't care that she occasionally has a text from a guy, but this was constant.
Later this week, I checked out phone bill. She has been texting him since last Sunday almost daily, and hourly. I immediately became suspicious. I confronted her about the messages and she said that I had been in a bad mood this week and she just needed someone to talk to besides me. She said her girlfriends aren't very reliable because it takes them forever to send messages back. She said she didn't know they had texted so much and she wouldn't so much.
I told her I wanted contact to stop with this guy for good and she said okay and that she told him. They haven't texted since I told her. There have been no FB or Emails either.
She let me read the text messages yesterday and I found out that they and another friend they work with have been smoking after work in the parking lot together. She is supposed to have stopped smoking months ago and said this was a one time thing because she was very stressed after a hard day. I was also mad though because her final text was this:
She said she has been told to stop texting him because apparently I check their phone bill now and it's bs because I have girls I text. He replied that he saw it coming and it sucks. That doesn't seem like a good way to tell a guy to stop texting.
Whenever I do have a girl text, it's about music we have to do at church, or if we are working at our job when I miss. That's it, nothing more.
She explained that she NEVER will cheat on me, she loves me and only me and that there was no flirting or anything else going on. She said she talked to this guy constantly about me and if she wanted to leave, she would have done it. She said she left the texts all there for me to read so I would know she had nothing to hide. She deleted his number and all the texts yesterday, but I still don't feel 100% about this situation. I don't think she would ever technically cheat on me, but the fact that I never thought she would even do this has just kinda made my trust with her a lot less now. I don't know how to really handle this. Sorry for the long story, any advice?
Around a month or so after we got back from our honeymoon, a guy started work as a janitor at her hospital. She said she would pass him in the hall and he was very shy and never had any friends. Being the nice person she is, she just started saying hi and being a friend. They eventually started talking a little and found out they enjoy the same music and tv shows.
This eventually became a texting while at work thing. She told me about him and I didn't really have an issue. They would text about a new album coming out or something, and that was it. Nothing major.
This past week, however, I noticed she was constantly on her phone and her ringer was off. I noticed the guy's name every time she had a text message. I finally asked her if she knew I knew she was texting him. She said can I not have a conversation with someone without you getting jealous?
I'm never the jealous type and don't care that she occasionally has a text from a guy, but this was constant.
Later this week, I checked out phone bill. She has been texting him since last Sunday almost daily, and hourly. I immediately became suspicious. I confronted her about the messages and she said that I had been in a bad mood this week and she just needed someone to talk to besides me. She said her girlfriends aren't very reliable because it takes them forever to send messages back. She said she didn't know they had texted so much and she wouldn't so much.
I told her I wanted contact to stop with this guy for good and she said okay and that she told him. They haven't texted since I told her. There have been no FB or Emails either.
She let me read the text messages yesterday and I found out that they and another friend they work with have been smoking after work in the parking lot together. She is supposed to have stopped smoking months ago and said this was a one time thing because she was very stressed after a hard day. I was also mad though because her final text was this:
She said she has been told to stop texting him because apparently I check their phone bill now and it's bs because I have girls I text. He replied that he saw it coming and it sucks. That doesn't seem like a good way to tell a guy to stop texting.
Whenever I do have a girl text, it's about music we have to do at church, or if we are working at our job when I miss. That's it, nothing more.
She explained that she NEVER will cheat on me, she loves me and only me and that there was no flirting or anything else going on. She said she talked to this guy constantly about me and if she wanted to leave, she would have done it. She said she left the texts all there for me to read so I would know she had nothing to hide. She deleted his number and all the texts yesterday, but I still don't feel 100% about this situation. I don't think she would ever technically cheat on me, but the fact that I never thought she would even do this has just kinda made my trust with her a lot less now. I don't know how to really handle this. Sorry for the long story, any advice?