My Husband and I have been married for almost a year. We've been together for 6 years and living together for 2. It feels like no matter what we fight about it comes back to this idea of balance. That one spouse isn't doing enough or feels like they are doing to much of the work. Last night we even had a fight about taking up too much of the bed. Neither of us like to be touched when we're sleeping so sharing the same bed can be difficult. Last night I was very tired and my husband woke me up by putting his arm on top of mine. We started fighting because I thought he was taking up too much of the bed. I was so frustrated and tired that I just screamed. He got mad at me then for taking my anger out on him I tried to apologize but we both went to sleep angry. I have manic-depression and have been off my meds for a while due to insurance stuff. He is very supportive, but every time I get upset he blames it on the lack of meds. I don't want to take my anger out on him, I know its wrong, but every time he does that I can't help but feel like he's dismissing how I actually feel about the situation. Like the only reason I'm upset is because I'm off my meds. I also feel like every argument we have turns into him lecturing me about what I've done wrong and how I need to change. Even if it started with me being upset about something he did. Maybe this is just because of my defensive nature, but he is so smart and good at arguing effectively that every argument just ends with me agreeing with him and promising to change. I would like him to be more romantic, help around the house more and to take care of his hygiene more on a regular basis. But I don't even know how to breach the subject because every time I've tried it gets turned around on me or he makes me feel bad for expecting too much from him. (This is mostly when we talk about romance.) I don't have anyone to talk to besides him I just don't know what to do. Any advice would help.