I got married sept 2011. About 2 months before we were married my wife played a message for me off her cellphone from an ex asking to get together for his birthday. She did this straight out of spite because she wanted to hurt my feelings at that moment. Then followed the worst month of my life feeling compelled to track her cell phone and computer. Nothing came of it and i resigned myself to just saying that the ex was a creep who was looking somewhere he shouldn`t have. We got married. Had a great day and a few awesome months and then the sex just plin stopped for 2 months. I couldn't touch her in a sexual manner without having my hands pushed away. I started getting depressed. And i wouldn't even try at all. Last week we went to weight watchers together,I'm 226 and she's 178. Actively working on our selves and i dont mind at all because i no longer work at a physically demanding job. And now there is a new turn of events i do not know what to make of. Her old friend from hs has come back to town after a divorce. I've met him. And read an email that she sent him saying "i just wanted to express im glad you're back in my life." And the sex we have been having is copious and ****ing amazing. But i cant help but wonder. I honestly cannot understand the drought we had. To go from nothing to the thing we have been doing this past week. God this goes so much deeper. After 2 months shouldn't she have been tight? Why does she use the business email?(not a coworker) and this makes me suspect of him and her... why last thursday after dance did she say was going out with him and a girfriend for sushi call and invite me. I have usually said no to sushi in the past-And then i say ill show up. Boom.. no girl all the sudden. Wife sounds angry on the phone. And there i am with this awkward suspicion. it would have been him and her alone. I usually say no to sushi. I dont know if i am overly suspicious, not cut out for marriage, or onto something. Wtf ami doing here? If someone has experience or an opinion let me know.