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Men's friendships with women 'driven by sexual attraction' - Telegraph

or if they can reinvent the history of their relationship...
I definitely agree with the premise of the article. As a guy, I just can't imagine being best friends with a woman without any sexual tension. Maybe that makes me immature, but I just don't see it. Now my STBXW always had close male friends (she had a circle of friends male/female who all hung out together), even before we married and the funny thing is, a few of them dropped off the radar as soon as we got engaged. And when we were dating - several of them were pretty frosty towards me. So obviously they wanted more than just friendship.
 

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Comment from a reader of the article:

"Men's freindship with women driven by sexual attraction? Wow, next they'll tell us the sun rises in the East!!"
 

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I definitely agree with the premise of the article. As a guy, I just can't imagine being best friends with a woman without any sexual tension. Maybe that makes me immature, but I just don't see it. Now my STBXW always had close male friends (she had a circle of friends male/female who all hung out together), even before we married and the funny thing is, a few of them dropped off the radar as soon as we got engaged. And when we were dating - several of them were pretty frosty towards me. So obviously they wanted more than just friendship.
I had a good female friend who was not in the least bit attractive to me. But she was a very nice person. We lost touch when she went back to Australia.
 

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I had a good female friend who was not in the least bit attractive to me. But she was a very nice person. We lost touch when she went back to Australia.

I guess what I meant was closest or best friend. Personally I just can't see it for myself. I've never seen it in real life either.
 

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I had a good female friend who was not in the least bit attractive to me. But she was a very nice person. We lost touch when she went back to Australia.
That's all it takes.

I know I quoted this before, but I can't help myself, I love Nietzsche...

"A woman may very well form a friendship with a man, but for this to endure, it must be assisted by a little physical antipathy."
Friedrich Nietzsche

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Tony55 said:
"A woman may very well form a friendship with a man, but for this to endure, it must be assisted by a little physical antipathy."
Friedrich Nietzsche
That quote is a real gem, I hadn't read it before. And so, so true. I can think of several women I know that would be very dangerous to be around if I found them physically attractive.
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We don't really need that article. We just need to go back and watch "When Harry Met Sally." ;)
 

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Opposite sex friends need to be friends of the married couple. Not of just one spouse.Anything else is just asking for trouble. From a biblical standpoint,married people are supposed to go through their spouses for this. It may sound a little extreme for todays world,but I'd bet that it works to prevent, shall we say,"inappropiate friendships"
 

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Opposite sex friends need to be friends of the married couple. Not of just one spouse.Anything else is just asking for trouble. From a biblical standpoint,married people are supposed to go through their spouses for this. It may sound a little extreme for todays world,but I'd bet that it works to prevent, shall we say,"inappropiate friendships"
Very well said.
 

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What really slays me about opposite sex friendships is that so many people see it as innocent, even with the obvious dangers. I remember very well as a young man in my 20's doing the dating thing,that a woman who had a lot of "guy friends" always turned out to be a ****.LOL the obvious reason is that decent women cant stand ****s,but some men love them. This isnt too hard to figure out.
 

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When I was married, I was good friends with many of my other best friends wives. Hugs, kisses on the cheeks, conversations and such. Now that I'm single, things are different. I don't talk to them anymore and maintain different boundries. Odd.
 
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