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sounds like her, looks like her body(which only YOU should be able to clearly know), has her mole in the same spot...but it isn't her.

you're being way too nice. she expected you to just rugsweep this new info? is she on some sort of medication? ask her how the hell would she feel if the roles were reversed.
 

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You need not get to the bottom of this.

Another man has met that place.

Face the front, place that familiar face in the past.

True or not, those video clips were meant to hurt.

And, they now have taken you down from behind.

The sender is a low down, cruel, doggy backstabber.

May he suffer the same fate.

Divorce, and never turn back, nor turn around, yourself.

May no decent man ever find the need to process this filth. :mad:



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She may be a cheater, but she isn't a woman that does porn. She is a woman that was record by a man without her permission who then posted on the internet. As much as it pains me to say this about a cheater, she is a victim.
Especially a victim of her own stupid lustful desires. Kind of like a guy twirling a 45 and dropping it causing a discharge and then blaming the revolver for him being shot. Gets no sympathy in my book.
 

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Especially a victim of her own stupid lustful desires. Kind of like a guy twirling a 45 and dropping it causing a discharge and then blaming the revolver for him being shot. Gets no sympathy in my book.
Sorry, I can't agree with you on this one. Your analogy would be accurate if she agreed to be recorded thinking it would never get out only to have it posted down the road. In this case she had no clue and gave no permission. That's actually illegal. She is a victim of a crime.

I'm not in anyway forgiving or excusing the cheating, but it isn't illegal.
 

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Sorry, I can't agree with you on this one. Your analogy would be accurate if she agreed to be recorded thinking it would never get out only to have it posted down the road. In this case she had no clue and gave no permission. That's actually illegal. She is a victim of a crime.

I'm not in anyway forgiving or excusing the cheating, but it isn't illegal.
Agreed, but these are two different things. What one POS does, does not exonerate the actions of another POS.
 

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Sorry, I can't agree with you on this one. Your analogy would be accurate if she agreed to be recorded thinking it would never get out only to have it posted down the road. In this case she had no clue and gave no permission. That's actually illegal. She is a victim of a crime.

I'm not in anyway forgiving or excusing the cheating, but it isn't illegal.
In many States, adultery is still a crime...makes OP her victim. It is just no longer prosecuted.

Point is the video would not exist if not for her stupid actions. 🎠She put herself in the position, (pun intended) for the asshole to get the video. Play stupid games? DING!DING! DING! 🎉🎁🎁
 

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The video being sent now along with her getting an email with pics too, point to the strong possibility that either it never ended or it went dormant for a while and then restarted with them ending it on a bad note.
we have had many threads of affairs restarting months or sometimes even years later.
 

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The video being sent now along with her getting an email with pics too, point to the strong possibility that either it never ended or it went dormant for a while and then restarted with them ending it on a bad note.
we have had many threads of affairs restarting months or sometimes even years later.
Not to mention that his wife jumped straight to , might as well divorce, leads me to believe the affair went well beyond the engagement and into the marriage, at the very least.
 

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The past will not let go.

There continues to be these lingering painful admonitions, those agonizing moments, yes. seen anew.

The odorous smoke and the dank steam from her earlier affair, have never dissipated.

You (we), know she had that affair, the video clips, whether true or not, are those, in your face, those so sticky, stinky reminders.

Separate from her, and the past will go its own way, taking the smell with it.

Um, yes, total honesty and an accurate timeline would ease your anguish.

As would, true remorse.

True remorse, a horse of a different color.

Her hide is gray, and her 'snort' replies, are reactionary and unaffected.

The lady does not care.



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I know you want to save your marriage. I totally get it. You’ve been together for many years and you don’t want to be turned into a part time dad. But please don’t rug sweep this. Allowing your wife to bully you into submission 6 years ago is what has gotten you here. Even @Divinely Favored ’s wife, who’s not a TAM junkie like us, could see that her response was a round about admission that it was her.

This is a case that cries out for a poly. They’re about 5 to 7 hundred dollars, depending where in the country you live. You’re allowed to ask about 4 yes or no questions. Talking to the examiner will help you narrow down the questions that will effectively get you the info you need for closure.
and...OP, did you ever scan the videos for the metadata? that would tell a lot too
 
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