In short; my husband and I fight alot. Not physical, just constant bickering and just simply don't get along. Been married almost 2 years, together 8. Some days are better than others, but most days are just on repeat. My problem I'm having is, tomorrow is supposed to be a surprise baby shower for me that he literally threw together. Like next to no effort. Just a last min thing bc I'm sue in a few weeks. I found out from 2 different sources, unintentionally of course. Nonetheless, I know about it and he thinks I don't. Now I know when he finds out that I know it's going to be a huge fight that will lead to us fighting in front of everybody. He will be pissed and start a big scene questioning me asking who told, like it's my fault. Should I tell him I know before, or just act surprised and wait until we're alone. We're not getting along right now and I'm actually annoyed about the fact that this is a surprise and I know I should be grateful. But all I keep thinking about is stupid materialistic things. Like, no ones seen my registry so how could anyone possibly know what I need. He wouldn't know where or how to find that. I know he just went to party city and bought "it's a boy" decorations which is just tacky. I'm a big Pinterest party planner so again I know its stupid, but I've told him I want to plan the shower. So I'm annoyed about that. He doesn't have addresses so I know he didn't send invites which tells me he only invited people on facebook or text, and that also means there will be family that wont be there bc he doesn't have their number or address. He plans on just taking me to my "friends" tomorrow for girl time which will be the shower and he doesn't tell me to dress up or look nice so if I really didn't know otherwise, I'd look like a walrus walking into my shower and he wouldn't be the wiser 😣 I'm just really irritated I feel like bc we're already fighting so it's like every little thing he didn't take time to plan out is bothering me and I feel like he's only doing it out of spite bc I told him I wouldn't want him to plan a party bc he's not good at it, he's just good with trips and vacations, and he made a comment "oh well now im going to just to prove you wrong".