Not trying to be defensive. I was only making an observation of what I was seeing to be so common. I totally understand many truly are better off & I’m not saying divorce shouldn’t be suggested. I know a few who should have never married & should get divorced themselves. I know some who 1 or the other has cheated & they reconciled. I know some who both have cheated & they reconciled. Then I know others who went straight for divorce. I get it’s different for each couple. I’m just new here & still learning my way around how the minds of the seasoned work.OP, I have to ask… when did you cheat on your spouse? And if not in Fidelity, what pattern of behavior or act is it that you have committed that you think we would recommend divorce 4? Rarely is anyone this defensive and less they are the one who has the flaw that usually creates the suggestion for divorce.