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I'm a girl age 30. Been married for 8 years, love my husband.
Anyhow, I'm feeling really down about something and thought maybe I could get some advice/opinions here. It has to do with decorating (oh joy!) So yeah, it's really not my thing. I'm not that good at it and it really stresses me out. We have been married for 8 years and our home looks like a very clean college dorm haha Very stark, nothing on the walls but a huge projector screen;P Well, we recently visited my mothers house and my husband kept commenting on how comfortable and "homey" it felt. I agreed. We both decided it was probably time to "grow up" and buy some nice things to make our house a home.
So yeah, we got back and started the nightmare. Lots of shopping and not buying anything at all. I get anxiety about buying stuff and he just "doesn't care." He told me over and over again "whatever you get is fine, I really DO NOT CARE." But that only gave me more anxiety about buying anything (I guess I was looking for more of a "Yes, I like that" or a "NO, that's ugly." I just wanted him to be happy with everything. Anyway (trying to get to the point.) My mother came up to visit recently and agreed to help me. With her help we bought a whole bunch of stuff and then with my husbands help we got it all up and it looks adorable. I was so happy, for the first time our house really does look like a comfy home!
A few days later we were out with some friends and one of the younger single males was talking about how he decorated his room and how it was so "sharp and manly" blah blah. Then that night my husband made a passing comment about how our decorating is "girly" like the Gilmore Girls house. It kinda hurt my feelings, but he didn't say it meanly so I just let it go. But since then he's made the comment like 4 times and it's starting to really make me feel bad. We spent so much money on it and I really want him to like it.
I can't tell if he's just saying that kind of stuff to look "cooler" in front of his friends or if he really doesn't like it. I finally told him that his comments were hurting my feelings and he pretty much rolled his eyes and didn't understand why.
Why would he say he doesn't care and then make comments like that? Did I screw up? Should have I tried harder to get his input? Should I consider redecorating little by little or am I taking this too seriously? AHHHHHHHHH HELP!
I'm a girl age 30. Been married for 8 years, love my husband.
Anyhow, I'm feeling really down about something and thought maybe I could get some advice/opinions here. It has to do with decorating (oh joy!) So yeah, it's really not my thing. I'm not that good at it and it really stresses me out. We have been married for 8 years and our home looks like a very clean college dorm haha Very stark, nothing on the walls but a huge projector screen;P Well, we recently visited my mothers house and my husband kept commenting on how comfortable and "homey" it felt. I agreed. We both decided it was probably time to "grow up" and buy some nice things to make our house a home.
So yeah, we got back and started the nightmare. Lots of shopping and not buying anything at all. I get anxiety about buying stuff and he just "doesn't care." He told me over and over again "whatever you get is fine, I really DO NOT CARE." But that only gave me more anxiety about buying anything (I guess I was looking for more of a "Yes, I like that" or a "NO, that's ugly." I just wanted him to be happy with everything. Anyway (trying to get to the point.) My mother came up to visit recently and agreed to help me. With her help we bought a whole bunch of stuff and then with my husbands help we got it all up and it looks adorable. I was so happy, for the first time our house really does look like a comfy home!
A few days later we were out with some friends and one of the younger single males was talking about how he decorated his room and how it was so "sharp and manly" blah blah. Then that night my husband made a passing comment about how our decorating is "girly" like the Gilmore Girls house. It kinda hurt my feelings, but he didn't say it meanly so I just let it go. But since then he's made the comment like 4 times and it's starting to really make me feel bad. We spent so much money on it and I really want him to like it.
I can't tell if he's just saying that kind of stuff to look "cooler" in front of his friends or if he really doesn't like it. I finally told him that his comments were hurting my feelings and he pretty much rolled his eyes and didn't understand why.
Why would he say he doesn't care and then make comments like that? Did I screw up? Should have I tried harder to get his input? Should I consider redecorating little by little or am I taking this too seriously? AHHHHHHHHH HELP!