About a week ago I learned that my husband has been texting a female coworker on a regular basis. They average about 60 text messages a day between the two of them, and sometimes it's as much as 100 or 200 a day. They text on their commute to work, on their commute home, throughout the evening and often right up to bed time. When we were on a family vacation he texted her 200+ times per day. Upon discovering this, I was shocked at my total lack of awareness and feared the worst. I looked at some of the texts between the two of them (I know it's devious --- I never look over his shoulder, but I felt I needed more facts before talking to him about it). The text messages I read were benign, as far as I could tell. I was still very bothered by the sheer quantity of them and felt it was inappropriate for a married man to have that kind of contact with a woman who isn't his wife. I'm not a jealous person, but I am very protective of my marriage. I've never put my foot down on relationships that my husband has had, to include female friendships. But I felt this relationship posed a threat to my marriage. His need to be in touch with her on a very regular basis indicated some kind of emotional attachment, and in principle, I believe a married person shouldn't be diverting that much time and attention away from his/her spouse. I confronted him about it and he said there was no sexual content or contact between them. And after I expressed that I was uncomfortable with the relationship, I indicated that I wanted him to limit his contact with her to work hours, except for occasional times when he has a specific reason to contact her otherwise. He feels he has the right to determine the bounds of this friendship and that I don't have a right to tell him how it should be. He slightly reduced the amount of text messages he sends her, but he still texts her every day, and several times a day. I'm devastated that he has chosen her over my concerns and feelings. Am I over-reacting? From a guy's standpoint, should a married man be allowed to have this kind of relationship with a woman who isn't his wife?