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My husband and I have been together for 18 years and married for 12. Four years into our relationship, and one child later, I had major back surgery resulting in a back brace for 7 months. This kind do put a damper on things. Then we got pregnant with our second child. This is when my husband started sleeping in another bed. He said he didn't want to accidentally hit my back. I thought he was being considerate. second child has auto immune disease that stresses this marriage and family to the limit. Somehow,we have managed to stay together. We have a great relationship -except in the bedroom. I have a wonderful husband who has always made sure that I was satisfied before himself. I love him dearly. Over the past 12 years I have asked for sex. Every once in a while I'm successful.
About a month ago after not having sex for well over a year,we had sex. I couldn't please him because I think he had 1 too many and he was too tired. He works a couple weeks on /couple of weeks off. when he came home for this rotation, had high hopes based on the last time he was home. I couldn't have been more wrong. I asked 3 times before I was finally told yes. I started to touch him just as I always have. He wasn't getting hard so I,asked if I could go down - no. The next thing he says is that I have natural lube and he doesn't 't and that I' being too aggressive and hurting him. Well that's a mood breaker. Nobody went home happy that day.
I,have grid ti discuss this with him, but I,just get messed up and can't really express myself the way I want to. I have written him a letter that I intend to slip in his bag before he goes back to work. At least then he will have time to,think about,what my concerns are.
What am I doing wrong? I feel like my mare eagle is falling apart and there is no way to stop it. What can I do to turn him on again? I don't want to lose my marriage and all the good stuff that goes with it, but I can't live like this for too much longer.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
About a month ago after not having sex for well over a year,we had sex. I couldn't please him because I think he had 1 too many and he was too tired. He works a couple weeks on /couple of weeks off. when he came home for this rotation, had high hopes based on the last time he was home. I couldn't have been more wrong. I asked 3 times before I was finally told yes. I started to touch him just as I always have. He wasn't getting hard so I,asked if I could go down - no. The next thing he says is that I have natural lube and he doesn't 't and that I' being too aggressive and hurting him. Well that's a mood breaker. Nobody went home happy that day.
I,have grid ti discuss this with him, but I,just get messed up and can't really express myself the way I want to. I have written him a letter that I intend to slip in his bag before he goes back to work. At least then he will have time to,think about,what my concerns are.
What am I doing wrong? I feel like my mare eagle is falling apart and there is no way to stop it. What can I do to turn him on again? I don't want to lose my marriage and all the good stuff that goes with it, but I can't live like this for too much longer.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.