Im 37, been with a lady for about 5 years, married 2.5 years. Ive been a needy man, dependant on my wifes affirmation fora few of those years. I have got some great advice on here about becoming more alpha male less beta. So I am. I used to be that way. My wife has been very controlling and manipulative. I am through being treated like a doormat. For weeks now ive been taking me back. She seems to be responding well to the change except last night at dinner. We have a rule, no phones at dinner table. We were sitting down to eat and she set phone on the table. The two nights prior she had been on her phone at dinner, or i would have let it slide. But all I said was,"will you give me your phone so I can set it on the counter?" She then said in front of the kids,"I didnt know I wasnt allowed to use my phone?". I said we have always had a rule about phones at the kitchen table. She went in our room and ignored me while I played with kids down stairs. Today shes been a witch. Do i just stick by my guns? Dont cave in? She uses her anger and distance in past to get me to grovel. Im done doing that. Need help.