I'm currently separated from my wife (2.5 years married, total of 10 years together). She initiated the move and feels distant from me and was hurt by my lack of attention and lack of listening. I did not intend, nor realize that she was hurt nor felt distant. I focused too much on work and am dealing with a woman who is not very outwardly emotional and is very strong/independent. This situation came down to lack of communication.
At first she moved in with her parents in the sticks, but the long commute and gas money was too much combined with her demanding job. She moved back into the house into our 2nd bedroom a few weeks ago. We are cordial to each other and I am giving her space per her request.
The thing is, I'm not sure if I should be writing her love letters and get her a nice Christmas gift (I already got her an awesome birthday gift for this weekend). Should I take a business trip and be gone for a while or would that separation be a bad thing?
Reading the helpful threads on here, it seems I have to not be afraid to lose her and focus on making myself better and more attractive, but how do I do that when I'm terrified that I may lose her and I love her so damn much? I want to win her back and show her that I understand and can improve our relationship (along with her cooperation).
What should I be doing?
At first she moved in with her parents in the sticks, but the long commute and gas money was too much combined with her demanding job. She moved back into the house into our 2nd bedroom a few weeks ago. We are cordial to each other and I am giving her space per her request.
The thing is, I'm not sure if I should be writing her love letters and get her a nice Christmas gift (I already got her an awesome birthday gift for this weekend). Should I take a business trip and be gone for a while or would that separation be a bad thing?
Reading the helpful threads on here, it seems I have to not be afraid to lose her and focus on making myself better and more attractive, but how do I do that when I'm terrified that I may lose her and I love her so damn much? I want to win her back and show her that I understand and can improve our relationship (along with her cooperation).
What should I be doing?