So a story of a situation that got me thinking.
So I get an email from my wife asking if she can go to a musical "Spank! A 50 shades of Grey Parody" for a GNO. There's a group of women at her work who all read 50 Shades and one of her friends bought 10 (Yes ten, my wife and I were like WTF?!?! but whatever) tickets and invited my wife. The musical is being advertised as the perfect Girls Night Out with a special ****tail being served before the show and then "Get your picture taken with the Dark Prince himself after the show". It struck me odd because, as much as 50 Shades had a MUCH larger female following, this musical strikes me as something both men and women would enjoy equally. My wife asked me how I (in her words) "HONESTLY felt" about her going, and I said "I honestly wished I could go with you, bring our radio controlled vibrating egg, and turn it into an AWESOME night." She confessed she hadn't even considered asking me because of how it was advertised. She said, you'd be only one of a handful of guys there, yeah but I'd be there with my wife in a funny sexually charged atmosphere turning this into an AMAZING experience for us :smthumbup:. She felt really bad for not even thinking of that. But I can see why she didn't because of how the whole show was brought to her attention. Her friend asking for a GNO, the description of the show that the friend sent etc.
My question is two fold. It got me thinking, is our society becoming more sexually directed toward women while also promoting the sexuality being separated from husband and wife? Or am I being more sensitive to it (which I'll explain below)? From Sex in the City to the L-Word, Magic Mike, the entire 50 Shades Movement, It strikes me that women are being promoted to explore their sexuality (which is an AWESOME thing that can make everyone's life more fulfilling) but also promoted to explore in a way that separates her from her husband/SO etc. which, in my opinion, isn't conducive to the idea of marriage.
Now here's why I'm wondering if I'm just being sensitive to the issue. My wife and I had a small issue earlier this year brought on by a bout of insecurity on my part when she went to Magic Mike. The issue was totally MY issue, she didn't do ANYTHING wrong, but I have this part of my personality where, I'm a total perfectionist about myself because I never felt good enough, so I strive to be the perfect husband/partner/lover because I'm always worried that I won't be good enough. It also happened during a more stressful period where we weren't as connected as usual so it was like a perfect storm for insecurities to flare up. I went to IC and we both went to MC just to make sure we were on the right path from there and within a few sessions were "straightened out" (PS I'm a big fan of MC in small doses more for marriage maintenance) Now to my wife's credit, she asked for permission to go to this musical (even though we don't usually have that type of dynamic normally) because in her words "I want to be married to you forever, and our relationship has been great and I don't want to do anything that is going to cause any stress between us." I loved that my wife had put some self imposed boundaries in place even when not needed. I told her that this doesn't fall into the same category as Magic Mike, I see it 180 degrees opposite. It's something that a Husband and Wife could REALLY enjoy together and utilize shall we say
and that I'd actually REALLY like to go see the 50 Shade Parody. It sounds like a show full of sexually charged humor...Definitely my kind of thing. She actually feels a little guilty because she didn't think of me first.
So sorry for the really long paragraphs, just wanted to share my story that brought this thought out. Is there some kind of "movement" going on that is promoting and focused on female sexuality, but also one that is also promoting that sexuality being removed from the husband?
So I get an email from my wife asking if she can go to a musical "Spank! A 50 shades of Grey Parody" for a GNO. There's a group of women at her work who all read 50 Shades and one of her friends bought 10 (Yes ten, my wife and I were like WTF?!?! but whatever) tickets and invited my wife. The musical is being advertised as the perfect Girls Night Out with a special ****tail being served before the show and then "Get your picture taken with the Dark Prince himself after the show". It struck me odd because, as much as 50 Shades had a MUCH larger female following, this musical strikes me as something both men and women would enjoy equally. My wife asked me how I (in her words) "HONESTLY felt" about her going, and I said "I honestly wished I could go with you, bring our radio controlled vibrating egg, and turn it into an AWESOME night." She confessed she hadn't even considered asking me because of how it was advertised. She said, you'd be only one of a handful of guys there, yeah but I'd be there with my wife in a funny sexually charged atmosphere turning this into an AMAZING experience for us :smthumbup:. She felt really bad for not even thinking of that. But I can see why she didn't because of how the whole show was brought to her attention. Her friend asking for a GNO, the description of the show that the friend sent etc.
My question is two fold. It got me thinking, is our society becoming more sexually directed toward women while also promoting the sexuality being separated from husband and wife? Or am I being more sensitive to it (which I'll explain below)? From Sex in the City to the L-Word, Magic Mike, the entire 50 Shades Movement, It strikes me that women are being promoted to explore their sexuality (which is an AWESOME thing that can make everyone's life more fulfilling) but also promoted to explore in a way that separates her from her husband/SO etc. which, in my opinion, isn't conducive to the idea of marriage.
Now here's why I'm wondering if I'm just being sensitive to the issue. My wife and I had a small issue earlier this year brought on by a bout of insecurity on my part when she went to Magic Mike. The issue was totally MY issue, she didn't do ANYTHING wrong, but I have this part of my personality where, I'm a total perfectionist about myself because I never felt good enough, so I strive to be the perfect husband/partner/lover because I'm always worried that I won't be good enough. It also happened during a more stressful period where we weren't as connected as usual so it was like a perfect storm for insecurities to flare up. I went to IC and we both went to MC just to make sure we were on the right path from there and within a few sessions were "straightened out" (PS I'm a big fan of MC in small doses more for marriage maintenance) Now to my wife's credit, she asked for permission to go to this musical (even though we don't usually have that type of dynamic normally) because in her words "I want to be married to you forever, and our relationship has been great and I don't want to do anything that is going to cause any stress between us." I loved that my wife had put some self imposed boundaries in place even when not needed. I told her that this doesn't fall into the same category as Magic Mike, I see it 180 degrees opposite. It's something that a Husband and Wife could REALLY enjoy together and utilize shall we say
So sorry for the really long paragraphs, just wanted to share my story that brought this thought out. Is there some kind of "movement" going on that is promoting and focused on female sexuality, but also one that is also promoting that sexuality being removed from the husband?