My husband is one of the nicest men you could meet. So nice that he avoids conflict at any cost. I am the opposite. Fiercely loyal and not afraid to stand up to others. I have a 'loud' personality. I am successful, fun and a great friend. Growing up I never had anyone stand up for me when things went wrong. Family and friends assumed I could handle my own. Here we are 22 years in our marriage my husband has never stood up to anyone that has said disrespectful or hurtful things to me. There have been a few times his family has made comments to me, and he looked the other way, telling me, he can't change who they are. I said, but you can change how rude they are to me. (i should mention, it has only been a few times, and his siblings are in their 60's. I am very good to them, having them to dinner every time they are in town. But there have been times nonetheless). I beg him to stand behind me when our son is disrespectful, he will chime in for our son to 'calm down.' Our son is 20.... Our daughter 18. I am losing respect for him. I get so angry that I yell and say hurtful things, which seems is the only way he will listen. We JUST had this discussion yesterday, he agreed he needs to speak up, went to family dinner tonight, and my son was disrespectful and what did my husband do? Tried to change the subject with our son so he didn't start a confrontation. This is truly ruining our marriage. Any advice would be so appreciated. He is passive with everything!!!