Hi, I am new to the boards. I have been married to my wife for almost 3 years now and we have been together for 6. Before we married she cheated on me with 2 different men. I wasn't having sex with her a lot and she felt I didn't want her so she cheated. I forgave her and we got married. I couldn't let the past go and so I would bring it up and argue and say hurtful things. Finally I quit and things where okay, but then this other guy came into the picture that she was friends with from work. Well they talked all the time, then last year she admitted to me that she loved him but then turned around and said she wanted to work things out with me and things where going good. But this whole time she would lie to me constantly and I knew she was lying and she would get mad if you called her out on it. Well I always did everything for her, I took care of her when she was sick, I always carried her to the bathroom at night and things like that. We have a lot in common. Well she packed up and moved all of her things out in late November while I was at school. I came home and half of her stuff was gone and she had moved to her moms. She called and said if I changed certain things about me she would come back. Well she ended up coming back the next week and we talked and things was going good and she stayed for my birthday but she got sick and I nursed her all day and night. That Monday morning I woke up and she was gone again but with everything else. She was on her way to the city which is about 2 hours from our house. She said she was living in an apartment with 2 girls and going to the school down there but swore she still loved me and wanted to work things out and she would be back. Well it turns out the 2 girls was really this guy she was talking to and his ex wife. He can't afford to live alone and he cant drive so he has to live with his ex. So now shes living in the ghetto with them going to school and the other day she called and said that she might be packing up to come back then the next day she said she changed bank accounts and was starting school and that she didnt know if shes coming back still. So I sent her a text that said that I didn't want her back till I was the obvious choice and I cut her off. The next morning I got a text from her asking if I knew a friends dad had died (which she knew I did) and I ignored it and I have been ignoring her for going on 3 days now. This is the longest we have ever went without any contact. I am fasting today and praying like crazy to have things worked out and her come back. My family keeps saying shes going to run out of money and come crawling back. I don't know what to do.