Hello to all! I have 2 girls (6 & 3) from a previous marriage which are not with me. We have been together for a total of 2 years and married for 1. I'm 31 and my wife is 29. My current wife knew this and was ok with it at the moment about my kids. She has hated my ex-wife for using the kids as a weapon against me in my divorce process and how money hungry she is. When my wife and I got together my kids where in a different state and such so everything was fine. I'm in the Military and I had choosen orders to Florida to be closer to my kids and my wife was not the most happiest because of the ex-wife. She knows that my ex-wife and I have to talk and even argue from time to time which my current wife doesn't like. She hates that i have to talk to the ex but knows she needs to deal with it and has been for most of the marriage. She is wonderful with the kids meaning she gives them baths and cloths them and gets them dinner and breakfast. Even when we are out she is very helpful with them. My kids are not the best diciplined kids and my wife hates that because she thinks my ex-wife does not dicipline them good enough and easy gets upset with my kids for how they act. I had asked one time if she loves my kids and she couldn't give me a straing answer. I asked her because I have never seen her just get up and start playing with the kids and only from time to time does she read them a book. My girls love my wife and when i asked my wife if she loves them she couldn't give me a straigt answer. One day my daughter, age 3 said "I, love you cindy" and i didnt' hear her say it back accept...."OK" which really got to me. So being in florida the last year has been up and down and now that i'm deployed it has really taken a toll. She is in school and now being alone dealing with school, work and my crazy ex-wife ...is not helping. She has just said that she doesn't know what to do and doesn't know if we can be together. She has told me in the past that she has never loved anyone like she has loved me every day that we have been together. She has not used the word "I want a divorce" because she doesn't know how she feels.... but only "I can't do this, I don't know if i can" and pretty much is driving me crazy. I can't sleep or eat and my heart rate is up and down. How can a woman who i thought was my sole mate and so deeply in love with each other go through this. I totally didn't see it coming and totally scared to lose her. She means really well and is the most amazing woman aside from this little falt of hers. A couple of times she said she has pretty much made up her mind with us not being together and I said to her tell me those words if you made up your mind....she says she can't and doesn't like to use those words and doesn't know what to do. I know she loves me and is reallys scared but its driving me crazy. Any help would be much appreciated.