I have been married to my wife for 17 years and we have 3 amazing children. Our relationship is far from perfect but we have lots of good times and a great family that we've built and have a house, car, and timeshare together. since the very day our first child was born my wife has been a stay at home mom. we made that decision as it would be better for our kid(s) to have her home. of course that meant some sacrifices but it seemed worth it. now that was far from easy as I had been living on my own since 18, put myself through college, paid for our own wedding, and then saved up for a house. now here iin the present I am working a job at salary-so no opportunity of overtime, and also I run a side business for extra money. we barely get by and I dont know what else to do....I get regular modest bonuses and mediocre raises over time....but we are still falling behind. it seems that every side job I do is a life preserver thrown in to help us keep from losing our car or house or whatever. I truly hat the idea of my wife having to work but dont know what else to do. I've hinted at it for some time and recently asked he to help out financlially...just for a short time until we get back on our feet. she has done nothing. just the other day, she made the mistake of leaving her facebook messages opn and I saw one to her sister where she said she "hates her life" and "wishes she had married for money" that she "always envisioned marrying for money and if she didnt like the guy she'd just cheat". I wish I never read the screen. I am so sick thinking about how shallow this person is that I thought I knew. All I want is to provide for her and my kids and I need some help and what I get is fear that she see's me as a disappointment and further resents me? no wonder our relationship has not been that great. please help..advice.