I have never posted on a website but im tired of searching for validation. i have been with my husband for 9yrs married for 4yrs. i knew he was a drinker when i met him, we both liked to go out alot. but since we moved in together i have stopped drinking, maybe a social event ill have 1 or 2. we have 4 kids, 2 are mine from previous and 1 together and then 1 of his. my husband is just so mean. he calls my son a *** if he crys, he is 8! calls my other son lazy and fat, he is 12. he is mean to his son as well but dosent do it as much anymore since he is 18 now. we have a daughter together who he spoils rotton! she is nasty to me, spits at me, trys to hit me, crys if i say no at the store. My sons hate him. he wont spend any time with them and if we do go out together he constantLy yells about anything. mind you he cannot go anywhere if there is no beer. He is way nastier drunk and even violent if he drinks hard liquor. he hasnt hurt me orr the kids yet. he says he loves me and if i was a better wife he would be nicer. I feel disgusted when he touches me. He has called me names, dosent like the clothes i buy, tells me to fix my hair, dress my kids better. he also has ocd which is driving us crazy! He has something negative to say about everyone and anything. He has no ambition in life to be anything better he is currently a maintence man making very little $, he has no education and this is basicaly his first job at 35. I have nobody. We moved to florida to be by his family and he has isolated us from them too since they are no good and corny as he would say. i have to add that he says he drinks because he is bored! Now i have taken my sons away from thier loving dad to live with this jerk. if my ex ever heard the names he calls his sons he would take them away. I want out!