Get out now. Join an Al-Anon group. You deserve a better life. Unless your husband stops drinking, you'll suffer for the rest of your life.
I hear ya. Sometimes friends like to sugar coat. And sometimes we want them too as it makes us feel like it will get better. In the end though, we know in our heart what is the right thing to do. I'm sure it won't be easy, but you sound like a strong person who can do this. Just focus on the prize at the end of the tunnel and go for it.Everyone is absolutly 100% right! I have to do this on my own but it is going to be hard, but for my kids id walk to the end of the earth through glass barefoot!. I have no parents to help me and my boys father is not very stable to care for them financialy. To the reply "you found the job you have now" that was exactly what i needed to hear! I will find a job and everything will be ok for me and my beautiful kids. I plan on being Super mom to them. I will update as it all unfolds. Im very glad i fund this site. You are all brutely honest but thats what i needed to hear. My friends tend to sugar coat what they say but you all are great! THanks a million!
Posted via Mobile DeviceMy mother had the same problem but she had 6 kids, no job and still chose to put her children’s welfare above the abuse and the fear of being able to provide. Your children will not starve. The damage that man is causing your boys is irreversible! Every day they get called names... your allowing damage to their self-esteem, to how they value themselves to the type of men they will become, why, because your ..? How about being afraid for them? That in a couple of years they may turn to drugs or alcohol themselves to cope. Get them out now, show them that you value them above all else and that you will protect them and are there for them. There is nothing worse than a parent allowing I person into their home with open arms saying here are my children... go ahead... harm them....