I live in a sexless marraige. It has been this way for a long time. It started shortly after we were married which was 13 years ago. Before we were married, we could not get enough of eachother. Now, touching, intimacy, romance, or even talking about it all is non-exsistent. I used to talk about it, a lot, but he always had an excuse. Sex is not the most important part of the relationship (that's his favorite one), I'm tired, I'm sick, there isn't enough time, the kids are around. I have tried to get him to take me on a trip, just the 2 of us. We have never done that. He tells me that he feels guilty leaving the kids at home. I could see that when they were little, but our children are grown. 2 of them have moved out and the other 2 are 13 year old twins. I'm so frustrated that I don't even know how to talk about this. I have read that many people have this same problem with the same issues. I have no friends to talk to about this, my mother died in 2006, and I feel like I really need to vent this. It's been 2 months since our last encounter. It is always the same, it takes about 3 minutes and then it's over. No foreplay, no intimacy afterwards. I don't know what else to say.