Sorry for the long story: 48(F) married 23 years 53(M) together 28 years. Have two grown kids in college. To start I have a very happy, loving marriage. I love my husband more than the day we meet and I feel he feels the same, but things have changed about 9 months ago. Last Nov. I was turning down his computer and saw that he has been watching porn. Yes I know all men do but it was a shock to me, so in turn I started looking a his history to find out how addicted hiss was and at what he was look at. He is addicted to woman's feet. He will look at them for hours. On avg. its an hour but up to 3 hours. Now that I'm I know about this I caught him look at my family and friends feet. I was so upset. He says whats the different if he was looking at the butts or breasts? I didn't know what to say. To top it off I then had to make a chose and have foot surgery because of the pain I was having and that sent me in to a downward sprial of depression knowing now is attraction to feet. I couldnt even talk to him about it with him well know how upset I was and I could even show it to him. Knowing how unsexy it is to him.I also knew he liked legs and I guess feet but not at all to this extent. I am not naive I have just been working full time , raising a family and two dogs. Now that the dogs are gone and kids are in college I guess Im more aware of what is going on in my husbands life and I'm having a very hard time with it. We have a great sex life I'm not complaining. It's just that he is not the person I thought I knew and I have to expect it and it's hard. I had loss sleep, lost 30 pounds and it has changed me. I wish I could go back and not know what I now know. I have become more aggressive with him and sex, I love sex. I have been dressing sexier and I even sent him a sexy valentine picture over the phone. (which I would never do) I think all of this was a shock to him and he wanted to know why I was questioning my sexuality. I told him because of what I now know. We have had 5 fights , discussion about this and he believes I should just grow up. That it has nothing to do with me. That he loves me very much. I even went to a therapist but will not be going back. She feels he has an addiction and would like group therapy. That would never happen. He admits he is obsessed and is addicted but its not affecting our sex life so whats the problem?