Here is my story. I have been with my husband for 20 years, it’s a lonely marriage and I don’t know how to handle our problems any more, we have tried marriage counseling but he only went 2ce and he refused to go again. I go to therapy by myself for 10 yrs, but I am starting to believe that is no help because they tell you what you can do to help the marriage but if he isn’t willing to try to help our marriage then it’s a waste of time. I have tried to improve myself by going to college and am going to have my associate degree in a few weeks. He has not showed me any type of approval or love or compassion in any way, he has told me he does not love me many times over the years and only a few times he has told me he loves me. If he does not love me I would take this as the truth if he would attempt to leave me and I can get over it and on with my life but he does not attempt to leave even when I ask him to. We go without sex for 2 to 6 mo’s at a time. I have approached him many times about me wanting to have sex but he ignores the problem and I am now scared to approach him The problems are getting worse and I feel if it is not important to him it’s just not important. .I am starving for his attention and don t want to be the one that leaves him because I don’t want the kids to blame me. And I do love him, and don’t think I could ever make it on my own.