New to this so be patient with me--I will try to give a quick breakdown of what has happened--My husband and I have been married for 23 years..2 children in college and like everyone we have had our ups and downs. We also own and run a business together and have for the 23 years we've been married. My husband is "everybody's buddy"--I've always told him if I was ever in the situation that I had ONE phone call that I was certain it wouldnt be to him..he seems to be quick to help someone he hardly knows but when it comes to us (me and the kids) it's like pulling teeth. Dont get me wrong he is a Very Good person with a kind heart but sometimes I HAVE NO IDEA what is going on in his head. He tends to be a follower and not a leader and easily influenced by others opinions and will always lend anyone money-even if we dont have it--as we run a seasonal business and right now times are tough-but he has ALWAYS dont this. I've always taken care of the office/bill..ect. and I am very very particular about paying bills on time--we have a better than excellent credit score and that is due to me..so here goes...was not looking at all for this-saw a copy of an email he got from a private investigator with a contract attached telling my husband to sign and fill out per their conversation earlier. I COULDNT BELIEVE THIS-my name was on this contract but it didnt say what services he was hiring him for. So..asked my husband about this and he lied to me face to face--said it was about some camera equipment for security at our business..so I let him believe that I bought it. After about a week or so I confronted him again--and finally after hours of back and forth and after lying over and over to my face he told me he hired a private investigator to do a financial background check on me to see if I had any hidden bank accounts-he thought I was hiding money-taking from business and secretly stashing away for personal use. I was hurt-mad-distraught-everything you could imagine--this coming from my husband who never tells me anything about the money he lends out and I tell him/discuss with him everything regarding money. There is absolutely NO one who owes me money-because I dont lend money out. He has no idea who owes him-or if they paid him. Ok--im talking in circles--I just need someones opinion of what he's done. His response to me was our business should be rolling--needed to see where the money was going. This was in Sept. 2010 and everyday is a struggle to trust what comes out of his mouth!