Hey all, I'm new to the board. I really would like some good advice. I am young, 22, and have been married almost 2 years, with my husband for over 4 years altogether. I don't have a lot of married friends that I can talk to so I am seeking help here. Basically what is going on is this:
Before my husband and I got married, we had spent a little over a month broken up. In that time, he became close friends with this girl and they even kissed. After they kissed she started dating someone else, but still talked to my husband all the time and stuff. Well, we got back together and then got married and when we got back together he really quit talking to her. After we got married I told her that she needed to respect my boundaries and realize that she was a problem because she kept trying to act all BFF with him. They have hardly talked over the past couple of years, just every once in a while to catch up. She asked if he was back in school, and when she had neck surgery she told him about it. She is in a relationship with someone now, has been for almost a year. Whenever they talk she also includes me and stuff. He never hides their conversations. Right now, my husband is in tech school for the Air Force and is about to graduate and we are going back home, and she has messaged him twice in the last couple of weeks about nothing of importance and asked how he was doing, but he didn't answer her. My friend says she thinks this girl likes him, but I don't know. I also don't know if I should tell him that their friendship bothers me or if I should let it go.
Before my husband and I got married, we had spent a little over a month broken up. In that time, he became close friends with this girl and they even kissed. After they kissed she started dating someone else, but still talked to my husband all the time and stuff. Well, we got back together and then got married and when we got back together he really quit talking to her. After we got married I told her that she needed to respect my boundaries and realize that she was a problem because she kept trying to act all BFF with him. They have hardly talked over the past couple of years, just every once in a while to catch up. She asked if he was back in school, and when she had neck surgery she told him about it. She is in a relationship with someone now, has been for almost a year. Whenever they talk she also includes me and stuff. He never hides their conversations. Right now, my husband is in tech school for the Air Force and is about to graduate and we are going back home, and she has messaged him twice in the last couple of weeks about nothing of importance and asked how he was doing, but he didn't answer her. My friend says she thinks this girl likes him, but I don't know. I also don't know if I should tell him that their friendship bothers me or if I should let it go.