My wife and I have been married for 16 years. Throughout the whole marriage she has been apathetic towards our relationship, apathetic towards life. We have no intimacy at all; once I decided to see how long we could go without sex before she made a comment about it. I stood my ground and didn't initiate anything or say anything; a year went by and she said nothing at all, and never gave any indication that something was wrong. After the year I finally said something, and she didn't have any answer. This was 5 years ago, and since then I ask her every day to communicate about our marriage. Literally every day. She always says she doesn't have time. I asked her for ten minutes every morning, and she won't give that; the rare times she gives in and talks, all she says is that she "doesn't have the answers". I tried planning getaways, she shows no interest; once I planned something and she actually forgot about it, made other plans the same weekend (I cancelled the trip). We have no intimacy in our marriage at all; its not just no sex, there are none of the interactions that make a couple a couple. She acts like we are just friends (and not even close friends). She is also apathetic towards friendships and her family. We have a wonderful teen daughter (my wife is a good mother), she is the only thing that keeps me in the marriage. If not for her I would leave with no regrets whatsoever. But I am at the end of the line, I am exhausted trying to save the marriage, life is going by (I am 44), and I want to love and be loved. Am I selfish to leave the marriage? We always say we would do anything for our children's happiness, which is what makes me stay. But I'm miserable and now starting to get depressed, I'm beginning to detach from life. I need advice.