@Sandman1318x, you asked, Need Advice. Stay or Go?
You are already gone brother, you just don't want to accept that!
This woman doesn't really value you or your family, and that's just the start (3 years marriage!)
You have so much to work on to fix this, it's not even worth it..
Lets take a look:
- You are treated disrespectfully, treated like a child in the house and every time something goes slightly wrong you are yelled at and spoken to like trash. In her mind you are not a husband with boundaries to worry about! The problem here is that you are not in control of the marriage like a husband should be, and you are not standing for yourself and putting your foot down when needed, and if you try to do so, you will be kicked out of the house again, because she doesn't value you as a husband, so why should she treat you like a MAN and not a child, after all you are the one that came back to "save the marriage" not her, she didn't want you, so in her mind you are lucky to be accepted back into the household, so you need to live by her rules!
- She doesn't want to work on herself and starts accepting her faults, and no therapy councilor will be able to work with her, and certainly not you, look what happened with the previous marriage counseling!
- She doesn't want to mend the relationship with your daughter, she can't, because she lacks empathy completely, and that's a serious character flow, you can't fix that, because you yourself are not respected anyway so how can she even take an advice from you about her relationship with your daughter, your even facing the possibility of losing you daughter, your daughter might put on a happy face for daddy, but she could be building lots resentment towards you, after all her daddy is catering for the wife that has all the toxic qualities over her!
- She can't mend the relationship with her mother-in-law, because she doesn't know how to forgive even though she is a Christian!
- She doesn't want to go to church and see a pastor to work on her issues and flows (serious character flows) like any normal human being, and you can't fix that, she won't listen to you or take your advice to go to church because she doesn't value your opinion nor does she respect you, you are just a child, a guy who came back "save the marriage"!
- And the last straw, her infidelity (that you brushed it off in your relies):
she was talking to another man half way across the country and she decided to kick me out.
- Add to the list other stuff we don't know about, but only you do!
All this happened in a three year marriage!
You see where this is going?!
You have nothing to work with, because you can't, she is not willing to do anything or take steps in fixing her issues!
What about her talking to the other man while she is married to you?! what did you do about it, did she face any consequences?! Of course not, you got kicked out of the house, you are not in control of any thing, you are just playing the game of trying to nice her to do things, she has no fear of losing you!
What will happen in five or ten years?! will she starts having an affair?! her character flows is almost the exact flows that cheater have!
Brother, the issues are so many, the infidelity should have been enough, it should have been the last straw for you, I don't know what you were thinking or your mind frame that led you to go back and save the marriage, but you need to get you ducks in a row and move on with your life!
Don't be in a dysfunctional relationships, it's not worth it, it already affected your relationship with your daughter, and you didn't take the decisive step to fix it by ending this dysfunctional marriage!