Hi. I am hoping to get advice from some men (or women) about a problem in my marriage. I am 30 and my husband is 32. We have been married for 8 years & living together for 2. We have 2 small children, ages 3 and 9 months. I left my job after the birth of our second child and I currently stay home. My husband works long days and OT to support his family. I do all the cleaning, cooking and the vast majority of childcare and responsibilities. I love my husband dearly. We get along very well. He has a great sense of humor and always makes me laugh. He is a fantastic father to our babies and dotes on them. I think of him as my best friend, and I think he feels the same. The problem we are having is about our sex life. Since I became pregnant with our first daughter 4 years ago, I don't want to have sex as often as I used to. This doesn't mean that we don't have sex, or didn't, it was just more infrequent. We could (and do) occasionally go a week or so without doing it, and I know my husband hates this. He has a very high libido and would be happy doing it every day. I don't really feel the same way. I hardly ever refuse him, but he has decided that I should be the one to initiate it most often because he wants to know I'm into it. The problem is that I don't do this often enough for him. I probably do that twice a week, even when I'm not really feeling it, but he's still unhappy. Am I wrong in wanting him to come on to me instead? I feel awkward having to do it all the time, and sometime I feel like a fake. If he were to romance me a bit first, I'd probably respond better. He also has a bad temper and goes into a funk where he isolates himself from me and the kids when he is unhappy. That is a huge turnoff, making this problem worse. I feel that he is placing all the blame on me for this- is he right? Things are different now & I'm not 21 anymore. The kids wear me out and most of the time I feel like a mom, not like myself. I feel that he is acting a bit childish. I also believe that the only way to make him happy would be to keep doing all the initiating and playing a part that I don't feel is true. Any thoughts on this situation? Any advice is appreciated!