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Sorry this isn’t relating to my spouse or marraige. I’ve got other threads on here about my marriage; I’m just stuck with where to go for help; please read-
Both of my biological parents are alcoholics. They are divorced from one another.
My father should be another thread. He recently was pushed and fell back breaking his leg last month. Due to him drinking and not able to handle him possibly losing his house and being in debt and not working. His stress is causing him to drink more.
I thought him being in the hospital and staying in a rehabilitation center would clean him up and he would stay on the right track – staying sober, he was eating and gaining weight again and looking good. Then last week they said he could go home. Not but a few days later, he started drinking again. I’m disappointed and worried about him.
I’m actually hoping for some type of advice for my mother – she needs to have intervention or a big wake-up call thrown at her. She lives in another state from me. My half sister still lives at home at age 30 and is unemployeed. She calls me often and text me with what my mother is doing and saying to cause fights. My mother is mean and verbally abusive to everyone in the household. I don’t know where to suggest getting her help if my mother doesn’t want it. She follows family members around the house trying to cause fights. If my sister or step dad walk away and close the door to escape her, she follows them, banging on the door and broke my sisters lock on her door to get in. When she sobers the next day, she never apologizes. Her words are mean and very hurtful.
I’ve seen her overreact and explode or misconstrue a conversation. She’s always on the defense thinking people are out to get her. However, I do know that between my sister and step dad, they both stick together and treat my mother as an outcast which makes my mother more angry. My sister and step dad are close and do talk about my mother. I see that and see how much it sets my mother off.
On top of her drinking – I think she really needs some type of medication. But she does NOT believe in counselors and thinks that everyone is out to get her all the time.
I know that my mother is not happy at home, she is the type of person who takes care of everyone else and never takes the time to care for herself emotionally. So when someone turns away from her, she feels hurt and unappreciated. My sister is 30 and needs to move out and give my mother her home back. My sister does interfere with the household decisions and I know it aggravates my mother. She talks down to my mother. I think this feeds to the fire.
My mother begins drinking early in the day. When I want to talk to her – I’m sure to call her by noon. After that she’s usually hard to talk to. She talks as if – everyone must listen to her and talks down to other people. It’s rude and disrespectful. She never is apologizing for her behavior.
I’m just wondering what it will take to get my mother help if she refuses and insists she doesn’t have a problem and also does not believe in counselors. Is there anyone out there that has dealt with a similar situation with a family member? How do you approach your parent about their drinking problem?
How do I tell my sister to get her $hit together and get on with her life and give my mother her own space? My sister has no desire or motivation to start her own life. Only to complain about it. She was fired from her job two years ago and since then has panic attacks and high anxiety. She expects her boyfriend to sweep her off her feet and ask her to marry him. I don’t see that happening as long as she stuck in her “I can’t” attitude.
Both of my biological parents are alcoholics. They are divorced from one another.
My father should be another thread. He recently was pushed and fell back breaking his leg last month. Due to him drinking and not able to handle him possibly losing his house and being in debt and not working. His stress is causing him to drink more.
I thought him being in the hospital and staying in a rehabilitation center would clean him up and he would stay on the right track – staying sober, he was eating and gaining weight again and looking good. Then last week they said he could go home. Not but a few days later, he started drinking again. I’m disappointed and worried about him.
I’m actually hoping for some type of advice for my mother – she needs to have intervention or a big wake-up call thrown at her. She lives in another state from me. My half sister still lives at home at age 30 and is unemployeed. She calls me often and text me with what my mother is doing and saying to cause fights. My mother is mean and verbally abusive to everyone in the household. I don’t know where to suggest getting her help if my mother doesn’t want it. She follows family members around the house trying to cause fights. If my sister or step dad walk away and close the door to escape her, she follows them, banging on the door and broke my sisters lock on her door to get in. When she sobers the next day, she never apologizes. Her words are mean and very hurtful.
I’ve seen her overreact and explode or misconstrue a conversation. She’s always on the defense thinking people are out to get her. However, I do know that between my sister and step dad, they both stick together and treat my mother as an outcast which makes my mother more angry. My sister and step dad are close and do talk about my mother. I see that and see how much it sets my mother off.
On top of her drinking – I think she really needs some type of medication. But she does NOT believe in counselors and thinks that everyone is out to get her all the time.
I know that my mother is not happy at home, she is the type of person who takes care of everyone else and never takes the time to care for herself emotionally. So when someone turns away from her, she feels hurt and unappreciated. My sister is 30 and needs to move out and give my mother her home back. My sister does interfere with the household decisions and I know it aggravates my mother. She talks down to my mother. I think this feeds to the fire.
My mother begins drinking early in the day. When I want to talk to her – I’m sure to call her by noon. After that she’s usually hard to talk to. She talks as if – everyone must listen to her and talks down to other people. It’s rude and disrespectful. She never is apologizing for her behavior.
I’m just wondering what it will take to get my mother help if she refuses and insists she doesn’t have a problem and also does not believe in counselors. Is there anyone out there that has dealt with a similar situation with a family member? How do you approach your parent about their drinking problem?
How do I tell my sister to get her $hit together and get on with her life and give my mother her own space? My sister has no desire or motivation to start her own life. Only to complain about it. She was fired from her job two years ago and since then has panic attacks and high anxiety. She expects her boyfriend to sweep her off her feet and ask her to marry him. I don’t see that happening as long as she stuck in her “I can’t” attitude.
