You say you got your T level taken care of, but then the problem returned? Have you had it tested again? It probably dropped again.I need advice from women but will accept from men as well. I almost don't even know where to begin.
I have been married for a very long time to a very good woman (and I love her dearly). who couldn't possibly treat me better. Our sex life was always very good. I am 53 she is 52 and is very much the looker. She has never realized how good she looks but she could easily pass for 20 years younger. She has always given me anything I want in bed. Her goal was to keep her man taken care of in that respect and she has done a hell of good job at it.
In the past 3 years things have begun to not work like they should. I have been to to Dr and my test was really low so we got that taken care of and for a short while it worked better (not exactly rock hard but much better) Then the problem started coming back. I have used Viagra and it helps somewhat but then again sometimes it seems to make no difference.
She is totally supportive and tells me it doesn't matter that she loves me and thats whats important. She says don't worry about it that if I can't perform tonight she has toys and she will be fine.
I am afraid its going to get worse and worse and become a situation where I will never be able to perform for her any more. I am so demoralized and depressed about this that I don't know what to do.
I know how incredibly important intercourse can be; the intimacy of face to face lovemaking and simultaneous release while looking into each others eyes. Its like the glue in a relationship. She is to young to beautiful to be stuck with a man that can't be a husband to her and provide that.
While she is ok now I fear that after long enough she will begin to resent that that has been taken away from her. I also fear I will be depriving her of that very human need. She deserves to have a man that can be a man to her and I want more than anything for her to have all the good things in life and to be fulfilled in that respect. I find myself in a lot of anguish and heartbroken over this.
The thought has crossed my mind to step aside so she can have a chance at that.
I hope I don't get castigated on this one . I'm not up for that. This is very painful to me.
I am still loving her. I love her so deeply and totally its as if Im swimming in her soul.You can work together on this and there is no need for you to martyr yourself by "stepping aside".
If she truly loves you she would be completely insulted to think that just because of this you would let her go. I also think you are going to make this worse with the way you are thinking, like a self fulfilling prophecy.
Do you only have PIV sex? What about oral and hands? You wife has already told you she is happy with her toys, believe her. Do you ever use them on her?
My partner could keep me very happy even if we couldn't have PIV sex. All is not lost, just get in there and keep loving your wife.