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My husband just informed me that my MIL is coming to visit. We just recently moved (to another city than her, driving distance) and I am glad that she is visiting. However, there are a few things that I am concerned about regarding her visit. 1)She is a hypochondriac and she is constantly complaining about some sort of "ailment", she has unnecessary surgeries to receive sympathy and lets not to forget to mention she constantly is on a sleuth of medication (she carries a bag with her prescriptions). 2) She is bringing her TWO 150lbs. Labador Retrievers to stay in my box filled garage. We are not "pet people" and live in a tight community; she does not clean up after them and I refuse to let them in our home. I feel bad, but our backyard is small and our kids play back there constantly. Since we just moved here, we had to lease a property and NO PETS are allowed! 3) She is not a "cleansy" person. I have 4 children and a husband that I constantly pick up after... vision: walking into her home is like an epidsode of "Hoarders". I am not kidding! And 4) Last week she was unable to pay her electric bill and asked us for money. How is she affording to come here?!?
I do care for her, she is a kind hearted person. I was glad that she was coming to see us, but, my Husband dropped the news that she is staying for 2 WEEKS. I have so much going on, and my Husband tends to think that I can handle everything on my schedule, my childrens schedule AND take care/spend adequate time with her. He does not have to deal with it in full capacity because he goes to work (not a typical desk job btw). I know that she is going to thrive on his attention as well - (i.e. I was hospitalized during my last pregnancy and low and behold, all of the sudden, she was in the ER at THE SAME HOSPITAL! 4 floors down).
The pressure is on, and I honestly do not know how to survive 2 WEEKS. I usually am the type to "grin and bare it", but I am sincerely overwhelmed and do not want to say something that I will later regret. How should I handle this?? I have already sat down with my husband and told him my concerns (he is not overly close with her, but we/he is the only sibling that speaks to her.) He told me to call her and tell her not to come!! Really?!? I have been under A LOT of stress and my blood pressure is above hypertension - I was lucky enough to find out that I need to start seeing a Cardiologist last week, and I AM ONLY 36!!! How can I be kind, yet stand my ground? This is just the bottom of the barrell on and I am starting to seriously DROWN!!! HELPPPPPP
I do care for her, she is a kind hearted person. I was glad that she was coming to see us, but, my Husband dropped the news that she is staying for 2 WEEKS. I have so much going on, and my Husband tends to think that I can handle everything on my schedule, my childrens schedule AND take care/spend adequate time with her. He does not have to deal with it in full capacity because he goes to work (not a typical desk job btw). I know that she is going to thrive on his attention as well - (i.e. I was hospitalized during my last pregnancy and low and behold, all of the sudden, she was in the ER at THE SAME HOSPITAL! 4 floors down).
The pressure is on, and I honestly do not know how to survive 2 WEEKS. I usually am the type to "grin and bare it", but I am sincerely overwhelmed and do not want to say something that I will later regret. How should I handle this?? I have already sat down with my husband and told him my concerns (he is not overly close with her, but we/he is the only sibling that speaks to her.) He told me to call her and tell her not to come!! Really?!? I have been under A LOT of stress and my blood pressure is above hypertension - I was lucky enough to find out that I need to start seeing a Cardiologist last week, and I AM ONLY 36!!! How can I be kind, yet stand my ground? This is just the bottom of the barrell on and I am starting to seriously DROWN!!! HELPPPPPP