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My husband and I have been together for almost 4 years now, only married for about 8 months now. Ever since the wedding the sex has been constant, which i dont mind at all i enjoy it just as much as he does, but im beginning to feel like its becoming too routine. And i have searched for different ways to change things up a bit, but i cant find anything to try. I dont want things to become boring in the bedroom, so any ideas??? :scratchhead:
 

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My fav spice up is a pair of dirty dice. We add a drink everytime it lands on the ? Fun times :D
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Here a couple of suggestions..

1.Go to another city for a shopping, then make love in a hotel room.

2.You both get naked in your bedroom, watch a horror film on your laptop, then make love after the film is over.
 

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What are you doing that is starting to become dull?
 

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Different positions, different locations, role playing, toys, and games are all great ways to add variety. Here are several games game Search Results - to choose from. They are a great way to add variety and fun.

The biggest thing is to keep it fun, not make it a chore. These books Wyoming Kama Sutra - Home are a great way to inject some ideas in a fun way.
 

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I know I'd love it if my wife was having sex with me while I was sleeping and I woke up.......that would be nice.

Or when I'm in the shower, getting ready for work, she is waiting before hand or sneaks in and we have a quickie.

Or as soon as I come in through the front door from a day at work, she is there and jumps on me.

Or she has dinner already and waiting, and watch an adult movie together.

IF she wanted to try some new positions, oils, toys, etc.

If my wife was in good shape, wearing some rubber or leather outfit, hmmmmmm......
 

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There are some board games that are for lovers... go to amazon.com and search on 'sex games'.. see what there

Have you tried body paints? there are ones that are eatable. So you can paint each other and then lick off the tasty paint….
http://aplaceforpassion.com/search.php?q=paint

There’s whip cream.. make Sunday on him and eat it off him
 

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My husband and I have been together for almost 4 years now, only married for about 8 months now. Ever since the wedding the sex has been constant, which i dont mind at all i enjoy it just as much as he does, but im beginning to feel like its becoming too routine. And i have searched for different ways to change things up a bit, but i cant find anything to try. I dont want things to become boring in the bedroom, so any ideas??? :scratchhead:
Thank god for women like you who don't want to fall into a "rut". Boredom is a passion killer.

Be naked in bed when he gets home...wearing nothing but one of his ties. Then tell him you want him to blindfold you with it.

While watching TV, start fondling him and then go down on him.

Lay a blanket down in front of the fireplace with a couple glasses of wine and some music.

If you're not assertive in bed, get assertive. If he's always on top, have him lay down on his back while you give him a bj, then climb on top. Pin his arms to his side while you ride him.

Pick up a vibrator or dildo. Masturbate for him. He'll likely do the same for you.

Call him during the day while he's at work. Tell him you're horny. Start masturbating while he's on the phone.

Get passionate, and then tell him what you want. Tell him you want him to go down on you.

Give him a bj while you pin his arms down by his side. Take control.

Ask him if he'll cook you dinner. While he's doing so, jump on him in the kitchen.

Next time you're on a drive with him, reach over and start fondling him. Give him a bj or a handjob.

Alternatively, next time you're out to dinner, wear a skirt. No panties. When you're driving to or from, put his hand on your leg. Open your legs and start moving his hand towards your vagina. If he pulls back, grab his hand and tell him "I'm horny...make me cum".

So many things to do. You don't have to get kinky or really get any props. Change the "place", the "intensity" or "passion", and the positions.

Nothing worse than "the rut". Kiss the lips...fondle and kiss the boobs...and on to missionary in the bed every time? Shoot me in the head!
 

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What are you doing that is starting to become dull?
Its always either plain old missionary, or me on top. 90% of the time, im on top because he prefers it that way. Occasionally i get flustered because it means, i get to do all the work. Which sometimes i enjoy taking controll, but occasionally i want him to do that part.
 

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Deffinately going to have to find some of the games to try. They sound fun, and very not like us, which is what im looking for. As far as dressing up, well im kinda pickyabout things i wear in that category. Its very hard to find things i feel comfortable in. Yesterday was his birthday, so i shimmied into a skirt i havent worn in well over 3-4 years, put on a low cut shirt and a pair of heels that really surprised him, but it wasnt very comfortable, or easy to move in. But he really enjoyed it. I think if his eyes bulged anymore we would've had to put the back in his head. And his reponse was ''what in the world made you do this?'' And i wasnt sure if that was a good question or a bad one. I am very self cautious too, which make dressing up a little awkward for me. Even though he has seen me many times, i still get very nervous and jittery when i do. But even with my nervousness, i want to try new things. I dont wanna get to the point where he gets bored and starts looking for something new. I really appreciate all the advice, and i hope these thing will help change things up a bit. Maybe later onif i need more advice yall can help there too. :)
 

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Have you "broken in" every room in your house yet? Don't forget the garage and basement if you have them. The great outdoors can be fun too. ;o)
 

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1. Pretend you just met him
"When our sex life started to slow down, I started thinking about how another woman would see my husband if she just met him -- and this made me want to impress him. I did things like buying new lingerie, getting up just a little earlier than usual to join him in the shower or making time to play later in the tub. We totally rediscovered each other's sexiness after that."

2. Tease each other
"Sometimes, when my husband and I wake up and hear the kids, we start kissing and caressing anyway. Of course we don't continue, but we get all worked up and then go all day stealing little looks and kisses. Sure, we could duck away and end the torture, but I think that secretly, we both enjoy this little dance. It definitely keeps things exciting!"

3. Act on your moods
"My problem was that even if I was in the mood when my husband was at work, by the time he got home I'd be too exhausted. It started to get so frustrating! Then, I figured out a plan. Every time I get in the mood during the middle of the day, I put a blindfold or something suggestive under his pillow. Even though I may be too tired to initiate sex later, he finds my little clue and definitely gets the message."

4. Get high-tech
"I've started emailing my husband sexy fantasy scenarios on his personal email account. This really helps me to get brave. Because sometimes, I just feel silly showing him my sexual side when we're face-to- face. Plus, getting his mind going like that has certainly has paid off."

5. Rent an "adult" video
"There are so many helpful sex videos available that are not intimidating at all. The one I like is narrated by a sex therapist; it's instructional in nature. You learn how to effectively stimulate someone, but on a really nonthreatening level."

6. Take real life and shove it
"My husband and I were always too busy for love. Finally, one night we were getting serious about fooling around and what happened? The phone rang! Even though he picked it up, I decided to take matters into my own hands, and kept right on kissing him, all over. I loved that power, and he went wild too -- when he finally got off the phone."

7. Be at each other's mercy
"Once I whispered in my significant other's ear to take hold of my hand. Then I told him I was going to close my eyes and he had to place my hand anywhere on his body. Then I massaged whatever area it was. He was kind of in control, but ultimately I controlled the pleasure."

8. Surprise him -- and yourself!
"I flashed my husband when he got home from work last night. Enough said, right?"

9. Heat up the outdoors
"We like to pack a picnic and head to our favorite secluded spot. Sometimes we even get to go skinny dipping there. When you try it don't forget a blanket or sleeping bag, pillows and bug spray because you're sure in for a long night! Of course, city dwellers can picnic too. Just create a hideaway spot on your bedroom floor!"

10. Be aggressive
"Telling my husband what to do in bed is very erotic. Although I wouldn't want a puppy dog for a husband all the time, it is so much fun to say what I want, when and how. Then there is seeing his response! He might get even more turned on than me."

11. Share (racy) compliments
"Once my husband and I were going to fool around in front of a mirror. He stood behind me and slowly undressed me. But as he moved along he told me how beautiful each part of my body is. Let me tell you, I didn't mind a bit. Compliments are a wonderful way to heat up any situation. The next time we made love I gave him a few of my own!"

12. Do a little dance
"I know that lots of women feel comfortable doing a striptease, but I'm way too shy to try it. I have my own version of one. I just dance for my fiancé, making him want to touch me, but never let him. After I've taken off just a few items of clothing, I let him do the rest! It's all at my speed, and he loves it! In the end, we're both very happy."

13. Go to a "toy store" together.
"My husband and I had planned a real date, just the two of us. We dressed up and hit the town. After dinner, I was sure the night was finished, but he had a detour planned. We pulled right into a sex store! I think if he gave me time to think about it, I'd have chickened out. But instead, we walked through the whole store -- and it was very exciting! I think that I even managed to control the blushing until we left."

14. Slip into something more comfortable
"One night, after my boyfriend and I went out dancing, he offered to get take-out and bring it back to my place. While he was gone, I decided to make the room -- and myself -- more 'comfortable.' This meant lighting candles, putting on a long satin nightgown, and spraying room freshener. I didn't plan on taking it further, but when he walked in with the food, I saw his eyes jump. So I decided to walk over to him seductively. I pressed my body up to his, and whispered into his ear, 'I have wanted you so badly all night.' That's when his mouth hit the floor, along with the food!"

15. Spend intimate time together
"Read a chapter of a book together every night. You can eat grapes, drink wine, even incorporate adult toys or choose to read erotic literature to each other. But for my husband and me, this is all about making an effort to touch, cuddle and spend intimate time together. That leads to an exciting evening no matter what!"

16. Appeal to all his senses
"I have been known to put cinnamon on a cookie sheet, turn the oven on and leave the door open a bit. This fills the house with the smell of chocolate chip cookies and puts my husband in a really good mood. 350 degrees usually does the trick!"

17. Get -- and give -- sneak previews
"What I like best is when my boyfriend and I describe what we're about to do to each other before doing it. As he talks, I can practically feel what will happen to my body. Talk about a double whammy. When he finally does it, I go through the roof! "

18. Make a bedroom rule "There is one standing 'rule' in our bedroom. We are not allowed to use the same position more than once in a week. Of course we break the rule, but not often, and it generally keeps us from getting into a boring sexual routine."

19. Make a game of it
"I challenge my boyfriend to a game of basketball when things get dull. Whoever wins gets whatever he or she wants. Plus, you could make it a full body contact sport."

20. End boredom with a routine
"We always celebrate the new year with sex! We've tried to time our orgasms so they both strike right at midnight, but haven't been able to yet. The good news is that we just get to keep trying next year!"
 

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Have you "broken in" every room in your house yet? Don't forget the garage and basement if you have them. The great outdoors can be fun too. ;o)
You know come to think of it we still havent 'broke in' the spare room. And the out doors thing is a no go till we move back to TX. If we done that where we live now i have a strong feeling there would be a convoy of ambulances because all the old folks around us would have heart attacks or strokes. These people are big time old fashioned. So that ones gotta wait. Haha. :rolleyes:

Maybe we can find a nice quiet back road somewhere and break in his truck, had it about a year now, still haven't christened it yet. I now have a idea :D, just to find a dark secluded place. Everything here is wide open rice and crawfish feilds.
 

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There is a wide variety of dice here DICE Search Results - as well as many other items as well. You can find games, toys, paints, furniture, swings, poles, pretty much anything you can imagine and possibly things you wouldn't even think of. The site above is pretty cheap compared to many others online and have $5 shipping that is really quick, not several weeks.

There are a lot of educational videos at Sinclair Institute, which has a site online, if you are looking for visual ideas. Spicing things up, massage, and many other specific topics are included in their line of videos.
 

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Its always either plain old missionary, or me on top. 90% of the time, im on top because he prefers it that way. Occasionally i get flustered because it means, i get to do all the work. Which sometimes i enjoy taking controll, but occasionally i want him to do that part.
He sounds like a lazy lover honestly. Have you told him what you want him to do or try? Give him some ideas and see if he gives it a go. If not, explain to him why it's important to you.
 

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He sounds like a lazy lover honestly. Have you told him what you want him to do or try? Give him some ideas and see if he gives it a go. If not, explain to him why it's important to you.
I wouldnt say he is a lazy lover, he just doesnt feel much of a need to change things. He likes for things to stay just the way they are. And i have talked to him about trying new things, he is open to it and willing to give it a try. So hopefully trying new things will keep the bedroom experience, interesting, i guess you could say. And lately the few things we have tried, he has gotten to the point where he is the one suggesting new things, or acting on them. :) And so far... :smthumbup::smthumbup::smthumbup:
 
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