She lived in the nearby city too, for most of her 20's. She'd ended up back in her hometown in the 6 months or so before we met.Perhaps, I only know one though and she's even more trustworthy than me.
Yeah sounds familiar, my ex found her escape in religion, yet then I became her escape within her religion although I wasn't a 'nice guy', but one I guess who she thought wouldn't judge her - and she was right, I'm more forgiving of people's past due my criminal youth.
We live in the big city and she was an escort so despite the numbers it's quite different to your scenario, like she didn't fk everyone in her suburb for instance.
So I guess our situation is much different to yours where she learnt how to abstain until she could unleash compared to your wife.