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I think it would be legal to give brother in law an attitude adjustment the instant he came in your house without your permission. The passivity amazes me.
regardless of the legality, you should have dealt some severe consequences for the drunkard entering your home and disrespecting you like that. But no doubt you could get a restraining order.

why? Police are there to serve and protect? Lol
I didn't want to be arrested in front of my children, and because my wife invited him over the cops could not have trespassed him. Hence why I got the restraining order now he can't come with in 165 ft of me or my house
 

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Its because the cops never actually saw him get behind the wheel, they knew he was drunk they asked him how he got here and he said he walked, and right after that and right in front of the cops walks to his truck and grabs a beer and opens it in front of them. Idk why the cops didn't do anything then. I honestly don't trust cops.
This sounds highly unlikely. Either you haven't told us everything or there's stuff that you don't know about his relation with the local PD.
 

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OK your response to his "if you were a real cowboy ..." should have been "if I were a real cowboy I would have shot you dead in self defense and for tresapassing" and legally I would be in my rights - not that I am suggesting that you should do that. You need to put the fear of God in him.

Second I agree with the others in that restraining order etc should have been in place after the first time. Also you are a witness to him driving drunk and would under oath swear that he did not walk to your house and that you had seen him drive there.

Finally it also sounds like your wife has been stepping out on you and you need to go into full investigation mode - mouth shut and eyes & ears open. Check call logs, facebook, etc. Can you track her by GPS? Find out where she goes and go there and check who she is meeting.
 

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I think you mentioned it already but restraining order is a must. Family court is where that happens so all you need to do is file paperwork and make the allegation it is almost always granted without question. (dont even need a lawyer for this its trivial) File on both brother and her. Make their lives miserable with this. It will help you in the divorce
 

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I honestly don't know where to start or what exactly happened but here is what is going on....

My wife and I have been together 12 years we have 4 kids together 17 year old boy, 13 year old girl, 8 year old girl and a 5 year old boy. The 2 older kids are not biologically mine, but i looked at them as mine and treated them as mine, the 2 younger ones are biologically mine.

So my wife and i had an argument last week. I honestly can't remember what was said but I do remember saying at the end if you think im such a horrible person why are you with me? Biggest regret in my life so far because she took that and left. Later that night her brother comes over to our house telling me he is ending our relationship and that he is here to kick me out of my house. I just closed the door on him and locked it. He tried to break in through the door and I called the cops, my wife comes back hours later drunk, supposedly drinking at a friend's house, I tell her that I will leave then and get a hotel room for a couple days which I did. I came back home the next morning to see the kids and she called her brother to come and "talk with me". I put that in quotes because that's what she said. Anyways I'm at my house maybe 20 minutes before he comes pulling up around noon just smashed drunk (yes he was driving) he comes into the house after she invited him in demands my child leave so he can "talk to me" except there was no talking he just starts yelling at me telling me I'm a piece of **** and all that. I told him I really don't wanna hear this from him And step outside in the back yard. He follows me calling me names and proceeds to try and get me to fight him. He tore a cigarette from my mouth spit on my shows saying if I was a real cowboy I'd kick his ass for that. I told him I'm not fighting him and he continues to follow me and berate me. I call the cops because he just won't leave me alone, they show up, tell me it's probably best if I got back to my hotel, so I ask if I can have my kids, my wife says yes and let's me take the 2 younger ones but only the youngest wanted to come with me. So we are at the hotel. Trying to keep busy, playo g swimming watching TV, I come to my phone to find missed calls and texts, turns out they are from my wifes brother calling me a dead beat dad and saying it would best for my kids if I just killed myself, needless to say with what happened with my wife and I arguing him telling me to kill myself just made me even more depressed, so I block his number block him on social media. I come home after 2 days, my wife is home with my oldest daughter oldest son is with her brother at his house, I let my wife know that it is my house to I have every right to be here and if we are really separating then she can leave this time because I have no family or friends in the area I have no where to go, her whole family lives here. So she packs her stuff and the older kids stuff tells me the younger 2 can stay with me, then brother shows up demands me to hand him my guns, screaming and yelling at me searching my house for them, once again I call the cops but he ran before they got here. She went to go stay with him and the 2 older kids

First whole day home with the younger kids and me, the wife shows up tells me all this stuff about wanting a divorce but doesn't want to use lawyers because she doesn't want us to be in debt cause of the kids, said okay to that went on with my day, she comes back later to get more stuff we talk again she says she still loves me but isn't in love with me, again okay, she has stopped by every night to talk to the younger kids and then to me. It's pretty much the same thing I love you but I'm not in love with you I want a divorce again okay she says she doesn't want to take the kids away from me because that would hurt her more than the divorce.

The second day of just me and the kids I am a wreck between her brother telling me kill myself and her telling she wants a divorce I decide to schedule myself some counseling sessions, which start later today.

So she calls me this morning acting all happy like nothing happened saying g she's hot something for me. My mind immediately goes to divorce papers, it wasn't that. She want to give me the new debt card she ordered. We are talking out in the backyard and I asked her what she wants again she says she doesn't want to be married anymore she loves me and want to be friends for the kids. I let her know it kills me everytime I see her that I want us to be civil for the kids but that I don't think we can actually be friends. This women is the love of my life and the mother of my children. I am always going to love her and if she came back and said she want to be together I would say yes but her showing up acting like everything is normal but telling me she want a divorce is just confusing the hell out of me.

Anyways I am just at a loss as to what to do. I want her back and she is sending mix signals like she want to but doesn't want to I mean she is staying at her brother's and part me thinks she wants to come back but her brother is keeps telling her that I'm a horrible and deserve to die.

Like I said I'm just lost. This post was mostly to vent I think but I would appreciate any feed back on what to do.
My wife left me last week. In the rear of Mike's Saloon I married another. It was jug of the reddest wine that ever burned the throat of man. I love my new wife. You can have the other.
 
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