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I honestly don't know where to start or what exactly happened but here is what is going on....
My wife and I have been together 12 years we have 4 kids together 17 year old boy, 13 year old girl, 8 year old girl and a 5 year old boy. The 2 older kids are not biologically mine, but i looked at them as mine and treated them as mine, the 2 younger ones are biologically mine.
So my wife and i had an argument last week. I honestly can't remember what was said but I do remember saying at the end if you think im such a horrible person why are you with me? Biggest regret in my life so far because she took that and left. Later that night her brother comes over to our house telling me he is ending our relationship and that he is here to kick me out of my house. I just closed the door on him and locked it. He tried to break in through the door and I called the cops, my wife comes back hours later drunk, supposedly drinking at a friend's house, I tell her that I will leave then and get a hotel room for a couple days which I did. I came back home the next morning to see the kids and she called her brother to come and "talk with me". I put that in quotes because that's what she said. Anyways I'm at my house maybe 20 minutes before he comes pulling up around noon just smashed drunk (yes he was driving) he comes into the house after she invited him in demands my child leave so he can "talk to me" except there was no talking he just starts yelling at me telling me I'm a piece of **** and all that. I told him I really don't wanna hear this from him And step outside in the back yard. He follows me calling me names and proceeds to try and get me to fight him. He tore a cigarette from my mouth spit on my shows saying if I was a real cowboy I'd kick his ass for that. I told him I'm not fighting him and he continues to follow me and berate me. I call the cops because he just won't leave me alone, they show up, tell me it's probably best if I got back to my hotel, so I ask if I can have my kids, my wife says yes and let's me take the 2 younger ones but only the youngest wanted to come with me. So we are at the hotel. Trying to keep busy, playo g swimming watching TV, I come to my phone to find missed calls and texts, turns out they are from my wifes brother calling me a dead beat dad and saying it would best for my kids if I just killed myself, needless to say with what happened with my wife and I arguing him telling me to kill myself just made me even more depressed, so I block his number block him on social media. I come home after 2 days, my wife is home with my oldest daughter oldest son is with her brother at his house, I let my wife know that it is my house to I have every right to be here and if we are really separating then she can leave this time because I have no family or friends in the area I have no where to go, her whole family lives here. So she packs her stuff and the older kids stuff tells me the younger 2 can stay with me, then brother shows up demands me to hand him my guns, screaming and yelling at me searching my house for them, once again I call the cops but he ran before they got here. She went to go stay with him and the 2 older kids
First whole day home with the younger kids and me, the wife shows up tells me all this stuff about wanting a divorce but doesn't want to use lawyers because she doesn't want us to be in debt cause of the kids, said okay to that went on with my day, she comes back later to get more stuff we talk again she says she still loves me but isn't in love with me, again okay, she has stopped by every night to talk to the younger kids and then to me. It's pretty much the same thing I love you but I'm not in love with you I want a divorce again okay she says she doesn't want to take the kids away from me because that would hurt her more than the divorce.
The second day of just me and the kids I am a wreck between her brother telling me kill myself and her telling she wants a divorce I decide to schedule myself some counseling sessions, which start later today.
So she calls me this morning acting all happy like nothing happened saying g she's hot something for me. My mind immediately goes to divorce papers, it wasn't that. She want to give me the new debt card she ordered. We are talking out in the backyard and I asked her what she wants again she says she doesn't want to be married anymore she loves me and want to be friends for the kids. I let her know it kills me everytime I see her that I want us to be civil for the kids but that I don't think we can actually be friends. This women is the love of my life and the mother of my children. I am always going to love her and if she came back and said she want to be together I would say yes but her showing up acting like everything is normal but telling me she want a divorce is just confusing the hell out of me.
Anyways I am just at a loss as to what to do. I want her back and she is sending mix signals like she want to but doesn't want to I mean she is staying at her brother's and part me thinks she wants to come back but her brother is keeps telling her that I'm a horrible and deserve to die.
Like I said I'm just lost. This post was mostly to vent I think but I would appreciate any feed back on what to do.
My wife and I have been together 12 years we have 4 kids together 17 year old boy, 13 year old girl, 8 year old girl and a 5 year old boy. The 2 older kids are not biologically mine, but i looked at them as mine and treated them as mine, the 2 younger ones are biologically mine.
So my wife and i had an argument last week. I honestly can't remember what was said but I do remember saying at the end if you think im such a horrible person why are you with me? Biggest regret in my life so far because she took that and left. Later that night her brother comes over to our house telling me he is ending our relationship and that he is here to kick me out of my house. I just closed the door on him and locked it. He tried to break in through the door and I called the cops, my wife comes back hours later drunk, supposedly drinking at a friend's house, I tell her that I will leave then and get a hotel room for a couple days which I did. I came back home the next morning to see the kids and she called her brother to come and "talk with me". I put that in quotes because that's what she said. Anyways I'm at my house maybe 20 minutes before he comes pulling up around noon just smashed drunk (yes he was driving) he comes into the house after she invited him in demands my child leave so he can "talk to me" except there was no talking he just starts yelling at me telling me I'm a piece of **** and all that. I told him I really don't wanna hear this from him And step outside in the back yard. He follows me calling me names and proceeds to try and get me to fight him. He tore a cigarette from my mouth spit on my shows saying if I was a real cowboy I'd kick his ass for that. I told him I'm not fighting him and he continues to follow me and berate me. I call the cops because he just won't leave me alone, they show up, tell me it's probably best if I got back to my hotel, so I ask if I can have my kids, my wife says yes and let's me take the 2 younger ones but only the youngest wanted to come with me. So we are at the hotel. Trying to keep busy, playo g swimming watching TV, I come to my phone to find missed calls and texts, turns out they are from my wifes brother calling me a dead beat dad and saying it would best for my kids if I just killed myself, needless to say with what happened with my wife and I arguing him telling me to kill myself just made me even more depressed, so I block his number block him on social media. I come home after 2 days, my wife is home with my oldest daughter oldest son is with her brother at his house, I let my wife know that it is my house to I have every right to be here and if we are really separating then she can leave this time because I have no family or friends in the area I have no where to go, her whole family lives here. So she packs her stuff and the older kids stuff tells me the younger 2 can stay with me, then brother shows up demands me to hand him my guns, screaming and yelling at me searching my house for them, once again I call the cops but he ran before they got here. She went to go stay with him and the 2 older kids
First whole day home with the younger kids and me, the wife shows up tells me all this stuff about wanting a divorce but doesn't want to use lawyers because she doesn't want us to be in debt cause of the kids, said okay to that went on with my day, she comes back later to get more stuff we talk again she says she still loves me but isn't in love with me, again okay, she has stopped by every night to talk to the younger kids and then to me. It's pretty much the same thing I love you but I'm not in love with you I want a divorce again okay she says she doesn't want to take the kids away from me because that would hurt her more than the divorce.
The second day of just me and the kids I am a wreck between her brother telling me kill myself and her telling she wants a divorce I decide to schedule myself some counseling sessions, which start later today.
So she calls me this morning acting all happy like nothing happened saying g she's hot something for me. My mind immediately goes to divorce papers, it wasn't that. She want to give me the new debt card she ordered. We are talking out in the backyard and I asked her what she wants again she says she doesn't want to be married anymore she loves me and want to be friends for the kids. I let her know it kills me everytime I see her that I want us to be civil for the kids but that I don't think we can actually be friends. This women is the love of my life and the mother of my children. I am always going to love her and if she came back and said she want to be together I would say yes but her showing up acting like everything is normal but telling me she want a divorce is just confusing the hell out of me.
Anyways I am just at a loss as to what to do. I want her back and she is sending mix signals like she want to but doesn't want to I mean she is staying at her brother's and part me thinks she wants to come back but her brother is keeps telling her that I'm a horrible and deserve to die.
Like I said I'm just lost. This post was mostly to vent I think but I would appreciate any feed back on what to do.
