I’ve been married for 4 years and I’m about to file for divorce.
In the beginning, everything was normal — we had a good connection, plans for the future, and for a long time I really thought we were solid. But about a year ago, she started to change. She grew distant, intimacy practically disappeared, our conversations turned shallow, and every small thing became a complaint. It was like living with a stranger.
Then one day she came home and told me she wanted a divorce. No big fight, no cheating confession — just a cold statement that she doesn’t love me anymore. I tried to fight for us. I suggested therapy, long talks, anything that could keep the marriage alive, but nothing worked. Eventually, I gave in and agreed to a mutual divorce, just to avoid lawyers and all the ugliness that comes with it.
The divorce itself hurt, but a part of me already suspected it was coming. I was doing my best to cope with therapy and by leaning on friends. But then came the real blow. A few weeks after she asked for divorce, I ran a DoTheySwipe search — and there it was.
Not some old, forgotten profile either — she’s been active recently. The pictures she’s using are from this year, and her bio even says she’s looking for “short-term fun.”
We’re not even done with the paperwork, and she’s already out there chasing something new. It feels like a punch to the gut. I can’t stop replaying everything in my head while she just moves on like nothing ever mattered.
The problem is, I can’t shake the feeling that I wasn’t enough — especially when it came to intimacy. Has anyone here gone through something similar? How did you manage to cope and move forward?
In the beginning, everything was normal — we had a good connection, plans for the future, and for a long time I really thought we were solid. But about a year ago, she started to change. She grew distant, intimacy practically disappeared, our conversations turned shallow, and every small thing became a complaint. It was like living with a stranger.
Then one day she came home and told me she wanted a divorce. No big fight, no cheating confession — just a cold statement that she doesn’t love me anymore. I tried to fight for us. I suggested therapy, long talks, anything that could keep the marriage alive, but nothing worked. Eventually, I gave in and agreed to a mutual divorce, just to avoid lawyers and all the ugliness that comes with it.
The divorce itself hurt, but a part of me already suspected it was coming. I was doing my best to cope with therapy and by leaning on friends. But then came the real blow. A few weeks after she asked for divorce, I ran a DoTheySwipe search — and there it was.
Not some old, forgotten profile either — she’s been active recently. The pictures she’s using are from this year, and her bio even says she’s looking for “short-term fun.”
We’re not even done with the paperwork, and she’s already out there chasing something new. It feels like a punch to the gut. I can’t stop replaying everything in my head while she just moves on like nothing ever mattered.
The problem is, I can’t shake the feeling that I wasn’t enough — especially when it came to intimacy. Has anyone here gone through something similar? How did you manage to cope and move forward?
