Despite the thread title my wife is not entirely lazy but overall she doesn't do much house work.
I have seen other women with 2 or 3 kids and they manage to keep a clean house. There is always a pile of clothes that hasn't been sorted, she often sleeps into 8 or 9 in the morning then she showers for about 1 hour and by the time she is dressed it is sometimes midday. She doesn't drive, she's not that interested in sex, she doesn't clean the house, she's an unimaginative and pretty bad cook to name several things.Even though I only get dinner. Not only that but she complains about not having a clothes dryer and dish washer. I guess with those items she gets to do even less.
Did I marry a dud?
She's not a bad or nasty person but I just can't get her motivated to do anything.
I blame the way she was raised and never taught responsibility.
I just don't want our daughter to turn out the same.
I work for myself and study part time at Univeristy, pay the bills and I swear she thinks that money will always be at her disposal and grows on trees.
I don't mind she doesn't work because she takes care of our three year old daughter. I know raising a child is a full time job but before we had her my wife still didn't find time to do much around the house. The house is always dirty, she leaves expired food in the fridge, she rarely ever cleans and if I ever attempt to bring any of this up in a nice way she gets the $hits and gets all defensive. The shower is always filthy etc etc. I could go on forever here!
I do love her but I get so frustrated and she thinks because we are reasonable comfortable (not rich) that she is better than everybody else. I have my faults but I am my own worst critic and am always looking at ways to be a better person and to improve myself (hence the uni studies)
I often play with my daughter and often take her to the park to play. My wife never does any of these things. If there is a piece of rubbish on the floor she will just keep walking past it. I will pick it up as I walk past and put it in the bin. She's often grumpy meaning when she is in a happy mood I lap as much of it up as I can because she is fun to be around when she is happy. However, she has no interests and no hobbies. She admits she is boring. I know this sounds terrible but the only worthwhile thing she has ever contributed to was to bring our daugher into the world and she almost screwed that up to.
I guess I just have to live with this but it drives me crazy.
Some may criticize me for not doing jobs around the house. Well, I earn the money, am going to University to improve all our lives and do all the outside jobs.
I have seen other women with 2 or 3 kids and they manage to keep a clean house. There is always a pile of clothes that hasn't been sorted, she often sleeps into 8 or 9 in the morning then she showers for about 1 hour and by the time she is dressed it is sometimes midday. She doesn't drive, she's not that interested in sex, she doesn't clean the house, she's an unimaginative and pretty bad cook to name several things.Even though I only get dinner. Not only that but she complains about not having a clothes dryer and dish washer. I guess with those items she gets to do even less.
Did I marry a dud?
She's not a bad or nasty person but I just can't get her motivated to do anything.
I blame the way she was raised and never taught responsibility.
I just don't want our daughter to turn out the same.
I work for myself and study part time at Univeristy, pay the bills and I swear she thinks that money will always be at her disposal and grows on trees.
I don't mind she doesn't work because she takes care of our three year old daughter. I know raising a child is a full time job but before we had her my wife still didn't find time to do much around the house. The house is always dirty, she leaves expired food in the fridge, she rarely ever cleans and if I ever attempt to bring any of this up in a nice way she gets the $hits and gets all defensive. The shower is always filthy etc etc. I could go on forever here!
I do love her but I get so frustrated and she thinks because we are reasonable comfortable (not rich) that she is better than everybody else. I have my faults but I am my own worst critic and am always looking at ways to be a better person and to improve myself (hence the uni studies)
I often play with my daughter and often take her to the park to play. My wife never does any of these things. If there is a piece of rubbish on the floor she will just keep walking past it. I will pick it up as I walk past and put it in the bin. She's often grumpy meaning when she is in a happy mood I lap as much of it up as I can because she is fun to be around when she is happy. However, she has no interests and no hobbies. She admits she is boring. I know this sounds terrible but the only worthwhile thing she has ever contributed to was to bring our daugher into the world and she almost screwed that up to.
I guess I just have to live with this but it drives me crazy.
Some may criticize me for not doing jobs around the house. Well, I earn the money, am going to University to improve all our lives and do all the outside jobs.