Hi Pkklk! I just signed on today and yours was the first post I read, I can see your situation being bery frustrating. I had a few thoughts though. I am not a doctor but do work in the medical field.
It sounds to me like she has depression, every point you made can be traced to that. As you are probably aware depression doesn't have to look sad or obvious of course, it can be moody, not cleaning, lack of desire to do activities with children/pets, lack of libido.
Another very common thing in women too, which I have had and suffered a few of the points you made, is low iron, I had lack of desire to do anything, the doctor didn't know how I made it to work in the morning. lol This is very underdiagnosed, or they will say, your iron is a bit low, lets get that up, but they forget to tell you (well in my friends case) that "you better get on that iron, this could effect your marriage, no libido, no drive, grumpy etc..." Fortunately I knew this story before I became anaemic.
I am going thru what you have stated above right now with my husband and really feel for you. Slightly different story but...
Good luck!
It sounds to me like she has depression, every point you made can be traced to that. As you are probably aware depression doesn't have to look sad or obvious of course, it can be moody, not cleaning, lack of desire to do activities with children/pets, lack of libido.
Another very common thing in women too, which I have had and suffered a few of the points you made, is low iron, I had lack of desire to do anything, the doctor didn't know how I made it to work in the morning. lol This is very underdiagnosed, or they will say, your iron is a bit low, lets get that up, but they forget to tell you (well in my friends case) that "you better get on that iron, this could effect your marriage, no libido, no drive, grumpy etc..." Fortunately I knew this story before I became anaemic.
I am going thru what you have stated above right now with my husband and really feel for you. Slightly different story but...
Good luck!