Hello.
My wife and I have been together for at least 13 years and have been married for 10 years. We have been blessed with 2 kids, a 5 y.o. boy and a 3 y.o. girl.
I never thought that our marriage would be on the rocks as it is now as early in our relationship, she made the efforts for us to be together. I am not a very attractive guy buy my wife is a drop dead gorgeous woman. I never really thought that she would have a crush on me and was just overwhelmed that she does like me and even made the first move for us to be together. But don't get me wrong, I had a crush on her already before she even made the move to know me. Thus we fell in love. She said she was madly in love with me and wants to be with me every minute of everyday. My confidence as a man really shoots up having a beautiful lady in my life who loves me more that I would expect to be loved.
After almost 3 years in the relationship, we got married as she really doesn't want to loose me. However our marriage life did not kick off so well as financial problems sink in. I must admit that I was not financially ready when we got married, and just agreed on her proposal for us to get married already. Thus, we are unable to make ends meet with unpaid loans and credit cards debts.
I guess the financial problems really hit us hard that could have affected her love for me. She demanded that I leave my very stable job for a better pay as we are still living in a duplex with my parents because I cant afford an apartment for us. Then although I had sufficient salary already on the new job, she wanted me to get a job abroad for several times ever since in the 3rd year of our marriage but fate was not there for me then to land a job abroad. And maybe because I am also uncomfortable leaving her behind and our children. I am a person who cherishes family and relationship above all things...
But she wants more from our life and is still not contented. She wants a new house, a car and of course a future for our kids. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with that but I see that I could give it to her in about 3-5 years more.. but she couldn't wait.
Thus I went abroad for a job that is really worth it. The pay is good although the place is not, but i sacrificed... for her and my kids. I was looking forward to making our dreams come true...
However, five months in my job abroad, I was devastated when I found out that she is having an affair ONLINE with her old friend from high school. The guy was already separated from his wife several years back and also have kids.
But the worst thing is, my wife told me that she has fallen out of love from me. They never have met in person with the guy and just communicated online but she said she has already fallen in love with him. She even told me at first that she was willing to leave me and my kids for the guy even if they have not met in person yet, so no physical relationship happened.. yet. She said the guy is also working abroad up to end of 2013, thus she told me that anything can still happen and that I should just hang on because her love may also not last. This devastates me the more as she made me a reserve whenever her love for him doesn't succeed.
I can't really think of any reasons why she felt out of love from me, unless she never really loved me in the first place and her intense feelings in our early years is just infatuation. But my question is, as we were sweethearts for about 3 years, if it was only infatuation, couldn't it have vanished already by that time?
I always pride myself to be a good person, husband and father. I am a devote Christian as well. I don't have vices.. don't smoke, don't drink much and never a womanizer. That is why it is hard for me to understand why she did this to me.. or why her love for me, as she claims flew away. But she too can't really give me an answer why.
I hope I could have some pieces of your insights.
Thank you.
PNG24
My wife and I have been together for at least 13 years and have been married for 10 years. We have been blessed with 2 kids, a 5 y.o. boy and a 3 y.o. girl.
I never thought that our marriage would be on the rocks as it is now as early in our relationship, she made the efforts for us to be together. I am not a very attractive guy buy my wife is a drop dead gorgeous woman. I never really thought that she would have a crush on me and was just overwhelmed that she does like me and even made the first move for us to be together. But don't get me wrong, I had a crush on her already before she even made the move to know me. Thus we fell in love. She said she was madly in love with me and wants to be with me every minute of everyday. My confidence as a man really shoots up having a beautiful lady in my life who loves me more that I would expect to be loved.
After almost 3 years in the relationship, we got married as she really doesn't want to loose me. However our marriage life did not kick off so well as financial problems sink in. I must admit that I was not financially ready when we got married, and just agreed on her proposal for us to get married already. Thus, we are unable to make ends meet with unpaid loans and credit cards debts.
I guess the financial problems really hit us hard that could have affected her love for me. She demanded that I leave my very stable job for a better pay as we are still living in a duplex with my parents because I cant afford an apartment for us. Then although I had sufficient salary already on the new job, she wanted me to get a job abroad for several times ever since in the 3rd year of our marriage but fate was not there for me then to land a job abroad. And maybe because I am also uncomfortable leaving her behind and our children. I am a person who cherishes family and relationship above all things...
But she wants more from our life and is still not contented. She wants a new house, a car and of course a future for our kids. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with that but I see that I could give it to her in about 3-5 years more.. but she couldn't wait.
Thus I went abroad for a job that is really worth it. The pay is good although the place is not, but i sacrificed... for her and my kids. I was looking forward to making our dreams come true...
However, five months in my job abroad, I was devastated when I found out that she is having an affair ONLINE with her old friend from high school. The guy was already separated from his wife several years back and also have kids.
But the worst thing is, my wife told me that she has fallen out of love from me. They never have met in person with the guy and just communicated online but she said she has already fallen in love with him. She even told me at first that she was willing to leave me and my kids for the guy even if they have not met in person yet, so no physical relationship happened.. yet. She said the guy is also working abroad up to end of 2013, thus she told me that anything can still happen and that I should just hang on because her love may also not last. This devastates me the more as she made me a reserve whenever her love for him doesn't succeed.
I can't really think of any reasons why she felt out of love from me, unless she never really loved me in the first place and her intense feelings in our early years is just infatuation. But my question is, as we were sweethearts for about 3 years, if it was only infatuation, couldn't it have vanished already by that time?
I always pride myself to be a good person, husband and father. I am a devote Christian as well. I don't have vices.. don't smoke, don't drink much and never a womanizer. That is why it is hard for me to understand why she did this to me.. or why her love for me, as she claims flew away. But she too can't really give me an answer why.
I hope I could have some pieces of your insights.
Thank you.
PNG24