I've read a lot of these forums, and can't seem to see anyone improving their situation. My wife, I love her, but she doesn’t even like me touching her. We have been married almost 3 years; have a 5 month old son. I'm gone on contracts to the middle east 2 months at a time and when I get home, we have sex once... then I'm begging the entire time I'm home. Before the baby, same thing. I worked away from home a lot, but she always made it seem like it’s a bother or we have enough sex. I have come to my wits end! Since we have been married (and even before), she is always sick, always has an upset stomach. Always tired, always "not in the mood" or other excuses. She is either playing sick or making excuses. I can tell from the time I wake up in the morning that she is lining up the whole day to avoid intimacy... Her tone, her first words of the morning, "oh, I feel tired..my stomach hurts.." I'm defeated! I have tired ignoring her advances then telling her "how does that feel", asking more often. Romance, talking to her and finally demanding sex. Nothing works. A year ago, before we decided to have our son, I took a newer strategy that still makes me sick to my stomach. First, I was able to have more time at home then ever. We are young, she is 29, and I’m 32... I decided that I was just not going to make any advances. We talked, she said there was to much pressure, so I said, "ok, I' won’t ask or make advances." For the next 5 months, we had sex 8 times. Mostly because I would try to get her intoxicated just to initiate. I'm wasting my youth. I fear that I'll just get old and never feel intimacy with her and have no connection. We did have that at first, but its long gone. Now with the baby, I feel trapped. I love my son, but I'm becoming numb to all my responsibilities. On top of all this, she ignores me when I call. She loves the money that I make, but that’s all I know. My wife can't even have a solo conversation with me in an intimate fashion. I bought her some "toys" a week ago, she has not mentioned much about them, except that she opened the box, and asked if I wanted it used on me. She joked, but somehow I feel like she thinks I'm really the joke. I'm a tough guy. I really have a dangerous job and when it comes to my family etc.. I don't act aggressive, and sometimes I make it a point to be the opposite. I joke around a lot too. But I am very well adjusted and you'd never know the things I deal with. All those things don’t even come close to how frustrated she makes me...If anybody here can tell me what has worked, I'd appreciate that, and so would my wife, because I'm very close to doing what I need to, to enjoy my life as a young guy. There are plenty of good looking women who make advances toward me. I'm just sick of waiting for my wife to get "better" or for her to spice things up on her own.