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My Wife Hates My Son

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I've been married to my wife for almost a year. A few months ago my 13 year old son moved in with us because his biological mom didn't want to deal with him (which I do not understand). My son is a good kid but a typical 13 year old with a bit of a smart mouth and little common sense (just like his dad at that age). My wife is an only child and spoiled out the yinyang. She's 41 and still gets a monthly allowance from her parents, you get the idea. My son has done little if nothing to upset her let alone give her reason to despise him as much as she does. My wife and I have had issues in the past (arguing) but have recently gotten to where we get along really well. Last night she told me she wants my son to move out of her house (yes it's HER house that I pay for). I told her sorry, if he goes I go (no brainer) and she seemed fine with that. I'm currently looking for a place to live. My question is; is this a jealousy thing with my wife? I ask her why she hates my son and all she can say is that "he's annoying" (what 13 year old isn't). I'm thinking that she is jealous, wants her "old" life back and now that she has a job (she hasn't worked in over a year while I put her through nursing school) wants to be independent. She's emotionally immature and has no real understanding of life. She's never lost a family member or had to suffer the regular hardships most of us do by the time we're 20. I'm hurt by this and saddened but I'm not about to betray my son for anybody especially a spoiled brat.
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Is it so hard to understand that just like there are selfish men, that there are also selfish women? The basic facts are that a mother has thrown her child back at her ex-husband and that his newlywed wife hates his son. Both actions speak very loudly of both women's characters.
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Yeah, we know there are selfish women.

But TWO women have rejected this kid. We are curious as to why.
Perhaps also because the father has a lousy partner picker.

The kid has, for all practical purposes, become a motherless child, so should the OP throw him out as well and complete the parental abandonment started by his mother?
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:eek: 41 and getting an allowance. Wow. I guess I'm both astonished and jealous.

Don't nurses (ideally) have to be both down-to-earth and compassionate with others. Wonder how her career will pan out.

Yeah, don't pick a new spouse over your son.

Like others, I would like to hear a bit more about him.
No kidding. If the OP is honest in his assessment of his new wife, then he certainly picked another "winner".

Am I the only one that can't help but think about the timing of the dumping of the boy by his mother? It almost coincides with the OP's marriage to his new wife. It seems that the XW had no problem with the kid's smart mouth that is until her XH remarried.

In any case, the OP needs to contact an attorney and request to have the court grant him physical custody of his son and to request any child support payments paid to his XW, during the months that he has been the primary caregiver of his son, to be repaid back to him. If his XW wants to wash her hands of her son, then she should be nailed to pay child support payments until the boy turns 18.



The fact that your wife gives no real reason other than "he's annoying" is pretty clear evidence that she is looking to pick a fight. She wants out, and he is her scapegoat.

You need to focus on your son and on why YOU are drawn to women who are utterly selfish. Find a therapist to help you work on this. I don't know what behaviors or personality traits such women share in the "getting to know you" stage (abusers come on VERY hard, sweeping their next victim off her feet and so she has NO idea he is rushing her b/c he cannot maintain his good behavior for long, for example--so the rushing into love thing is a red flag for women who know this), but a good therapist will help you figure it out and let you know what to look for so you don't make the same mistake a 3rd time.

Good luck.
You nailed it.
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Nothing since May 3rd.

It would be nice if newbies could at least post that they are reading the comments.
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