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I know this topic as been discussed extensively, but my problem i never had oral sex exp and i heard it is good. I want my DW to try but she says my penis is smelly and it may not be hygenic.
I just want to know the process like how to clean and give her confidence about hygiene
 

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Are you circumsized? It's not really rocket science either way... If you approach her fresh out of the shower, after you've carefully washed all your bits, then ask her what the problem really is. Has she ever done that with anyone? How's your sex life other than that?

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Are you circumsized? It's not really rocket science either way... If you approach her fresh out of the shower, after you've carefully washed all your bits, then ask her what the problem really is. Has she ever done that with anyone? How's your sex life other than that?

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but don't get your hopes up most likly she just don't want to do it
 

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Wash all of the nooks and crannies on your junk and buttocks at lest three times and rinse thoroughly between soaping. Do it every day but dont ask your wife until the 3rd day to smell ya. You have to wait because the smell lingers in the skin even when it is clean.

My suggestion - Never approach for sex without bathing so she does not get a wif of body odor. Take a shower together and wash each other.
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Do you give her oral??

She might be more willing if she knows what it feels like for her.

My husband always asked for oral in a very pushy way and it turned me off. Its not that I don't enjoy giving him oral, its just that he was pushy. Also I wish my husband would trim his bush. It does not need to be shaved like women do, but trimmed would be very nice. They also have flavored lubricant that she can use on you if she does not like the taste. Maybe go to an adult store with her and look at all the options as far as lubricants and eratic gels.

Also if I give him oral I WANT TO BE IN CONTROL.....I don't like it when a guy wants to have control of a womans head while she gives oral.
 

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I know this topic as been discussed extensively, but my problem i never had oral sex exp and i heard it is good. I want my DW to try but she says my penis is smelly and it may not be hygenic.
I just want to know the process like how to clean and give her confidence about hygiene
-Pull back foreskin completely (if you have any)
-Build a good lather, and clean every inch. Pay special attnetion to the underside of the helmet, as various debris can get stuck there if you still have foreskin.
-Gently scratch the helmet with your fingernail to remove any skin or dried semen that may stuck on.
-Be very sure not to get any soap into your urethra, unless your into that kind of thing. Personally I think it burns like heck!


Oh, also shave your testicles, shaft, and hair around the base of your penis.


Id also suggest maybe offering your wife to shower with you. That way she can be certain it is completely clean. However, if youve never had oral before, I highly suggest you do it lying on your back and not standing in a slippery death machine (tub).
 

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You can't just dive in with this with your wife, even though I know you are dying inside. It has to be in baby steps. Does she like to see you nude, always shower before doing this, and trim for sure. My DH even puts a dab of cologne on his hair. If she enjoys staring at you that's a HUGE step.. then, after a while maybe a month or so... your talking women time here ,when she is staring at your CLEAN body, say something like, "Honey your hands are so beautiful and soooo very soft can you CARESS my testicles?" Yes I said caress and testicles, because saying " woman grab my balls "doesn't cut it. If she DOES that , it's another baby step. See what I mean......slowly she has to fall in love with your penis..it's sounds dumb but true. All the while ALWAYS tell her thank you , only you know what I like, your so sexy honey, how do you know how to do that, I am so lucky to have a woman like you, your my fantasy, It's not being deceptive at all, compliments are like food to a woman.
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MOST IMPORTANTLY SAY THESE THINGS OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM!!!

There is a book called "Sex begins in the Kitchen" by Dr. Kevin Leman, he is a hilarious author who talks about sex in marriage......

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thanks annagarret and all others, i am not actually not dying for it but just curious to have it done one time just to have that exp. I will try this step by step also just want to get opinion about hygeine because i feel if she does this sometime i will have to do something similar for her and i am not comfortable putting my mouth inside her private parts so this is going to be difficult to make this happen.
 

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i feel if she does this sometime i will have to do something similar for her and i am not comfortable putting my mouth inside her private parts so this is going to be difficult to make this happen.
I think you are being completely unreasonable then. If you want her to shove your junk in her mouth, but have no intention of returning the favor, then don't ask for it. Don' whine or complain about something you want when you are unwilling to provide her with the same IMHO.
 

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thanks annagarret and all others, i am not actually not dying for it but just curious to have it done one time just to have that exp. I will try this step by step also just want to get opinion about hygeine because i feel if she does this sometime i will have to do something similar for her and i am not comfortable putting my mouth inside her private parts so this is going to be difficult to make this happen.
would she shower with you????
 

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Wash your penis.
 

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she surely does shower with me, it is some kind of hesitation because of hygiene and could be because my penis is quite black compared to my body and lot of blackness in between legs so she might have some hesitation?
 

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You can't just dive in with this with your wife, even though I know you are dying inside. It has to be in baby steps. Does she like to see you nude, always shower before doing this, and trim for sure. My DH even puts a dab of cologne on his hair. If she enjoys staring at you that's a HUGE step.. then, after a while maybe a month or so... your talking women time here ,when she is staring at your CLEAN body, say something like, "Honey your hands are so beautiful and soooo very soft can you CARESS my testicles?" Yes I said caress and testicles, because saying " woman grab my balls "doesn't cut it. If she DOES that , it's another baby step. See what I mean......slowly she has to fall in love with your penis..it's sounds dumb but true. All the while ALWAYS tell her thank you , only you know what I like, your so sexy honey, how do you know how to do that, I am so lucky to have a woman like you, your my fantasy, It's not being deceptive at all, compliments are like food to a woman.
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MOST IMPORTANTLY SAY THESE THINGS OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM!!!

There is a book called "Sex begins in the Kitchen" by Dr. Kevin Leman, he is a hilarious author who talks about sex in marriage......

Blessings
^^^^^^ THIS^^^^^^^ I tried expressing my transition from thinking penises were ugly to knowing they are beautiful but I could not say it as well as you have done. .

Nuf' said. Love the part about women time. ; 0 }

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I can't figure out why people are in here trying to give the guy advice when he has come out and said he has no intention of doing the same for her, he just wants him a BJ without having to give her any oral. That's crap.
 

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Wash all of the nooks and crannies on your junk and buttocks at lest three times and rinse thoroughly between soaping. Do it every day but dont ask your wife until the 3rd day to smell ya. You have to wait because the smell lingers in the skin even when it is clean.
Holy smokes I had to do less than this for for surgery prep. No one should have to work that hard to get some lovin'.
 

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thanks annagarret and all others, i am not actually not dying for it but just curious to have it done one time just to have that exp. I will try this step by step also just want to get opinion about hygeine because i feel if she does this sometime i will have to do something similar for her and i am not comfortable putting my mouth inside her private parts so this is going to be difficult to make this happen.
what is up with this attitude? you want it but don't want to do back. This just p*ss*s me off no the tenth degree.

your a selfish lover and you don't deserve it!:mad:
 

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Ohhhh I did not see that. But lets not be too hasty - the point is not to trade sex acts right?

. If she enjoys giving him oral provided he is clean then she can decide if she wants to give and not receive. If she is satisfied in other areas and does not feel deprived then there is no problem. Why does he have to give up all hope because he is expressing an honest preference.. Thats the basis of the sugesstions. If he has to force himself to do it then why bother?

Oral sex is a loving act and in my opinion, accepting oral sex from someone who clearly does not like it is not loving. Sex between two people who love and care about each other is not a bean counting exercise. You'd need to keep a ledger on the night stand and balance the books each week. Isn't Sex an exchange of satisfactions not of sex acts. .

Supr dont force yourself to give her oral so you can get yours, how is that going to work. The best way to handle this is with complete honesty. it will get you further than doing something to her to get something. Tell her you do not like to give and ask her if there is anything else you can do for her. Then ask her how would she feel about giving you oral sex after you clean up.

You are being honest and offering to compromise and asking her how she feels about giving to you. Is she satisfied and does she have orgasms?
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