It seems like a lot of people find great words of encouragement on here, so I thought I would give it a try. My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We have 2 children. We were really good friends before we committed to a serious relationship and figured...why can't this work? We are great together. Well, years have passed, and recently my wife dropped a bombshell on me. The whole "I don't know that I have ever been in love with you" line. We have had quite a few conversations lately and have realized that we don't talk nearly enough to each other about how we feel. The part that scares me, is that she said she has never really felt a spark with me. I tried early on in our relationship to be a romantic and always please her, but she is very emotionally shut down and most times rejects any intimate time. She is literally the most beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life and is capable of so much joy and happiness. She has a lot of self doubt, and lacks the desire to spend much time pleasing others. I have recently learned as well that there are some very deep emotional issues with her mother. They have a very intense relationship where her mother demands a lot of emotional need from my wife. I believe a lot of this has pulled her desire to meet much of my emotional needs. I have become very self conscience about my own masculinity, and now have doubts about my ability to get back my groove. We have reached a point where she has agreed to work on our relationship, but I am at a loss on the right things to do on my end to help her strengthen her confidence and ability to love. She is a wonderful mother and a great wife, but her dark cloud around her is starting to consume our whole family. I want to get her back to a happy place for her own sake and if I am fortunate, for my sake too! I love her so much!