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First off... I'm a newbie here, hope this doesn't come off like some kind of Troll or **** post. It's not intended to be at all.
My wife and I have been married for just over 8 years now, together for 14. I'd say we have a pretty awesome relationship - we're best friends basically. We occasionally have a disagreement, but those are really rare. We are financially stable, we always got time for our kids and ourselves despite the hectic schedule. we go on a date atleast 2x/ a week, i.e. a breakfast before going to work or late fancy dinner without the kids.
Either way.. let's talk about my matter at hand. I wish my wife would wear sexy lingerie a little more often. Maybe once in 3-4 months she will surprise me and she'll put on a tedy or a babydoll that I've picked up for her over the years but those times that she surprised mostly comes with an occasion OR If she ever wear Lingerie with no occasion or out of nothing, that is because of my request or I begged. I've been doing a lot of things for her like backrubs, massage, wash the dishes and I cook for her and the kids daily because I'm the better cook compared to her. Most of the time the subject is just never broached. The very rare times she surprises me, I always complimented her before during and after she noticed it also that the sex was more amazing! (I get so pump up)I also made sure to treat her very well after the sex like breakfast in bed, flowers when she wakes and more..
we are at our mid 30's, with 2 kids, we are not perfect physically but we are fit and are not overweight. So there's no body issues or self confidence probs.
She knows I love lingerie - I'm a sucker for thongs, strings, lace and pair it up with stockings and heels then I'll be in heaven! I'm the type of guy that like to slowly remove the clothing while making love, or I like to have sex with semi naked, a little shirt on or undies on the knees or half of the bra off, skirt up, string pulled etc..
Of course I've mentioned my affinity for lingerie before and I've bought her countless items - I used to buy her some lingerie for every holiday, on top of any other gifts I'd get her. In recognition also, she's bought thongs and strings by herself in which she never/rarely did during our early stages together (includes dating years).
The times she wears Lingerie, are times when we are about to have sex, say we go on a date, she will wear something nice but will just wear regular undies, not the granny type but not thong or strings, then when we go back to our room or say hotel if we are on a vacation, she'll undress and wear the thongs/strings. I mean why not wear it along with the nice sexy dress? Sometimes also I tell her to wear Lingerie before we have sex, most of the time she oblige but there's a smirk on her face. Despite her being compliant most of the time, it would have been better and I will feel better if I need not to tell her or to beg.
I've told her that if one night we went out she wore a dress or skirt and gave me a surprise peek of stockings and a garter belt underneath, I'd probably lose it right on the spot. Still nothing. Another time we were at the mall and I whispered to her to go pick out some shoes that she thought might be appropriate for the bedroom - We had fun picking them out but she's worn them maybe two or three times in a year.
We have talked about this multiple times, I've even pointed out to her about her co-workers, my co workers wearing thong (in a candid way of course, I'm not turned on if it is not my wife) and her reply was that she's aware of it and that scrubs really matches well with thongs but she does not want her patients attention on her in which I totally agree. so it is not like she does not want to wear thongs coz she does, like when she exercise in our mini gym at our basement she wears thongs (not all the time) because she finds it comfortable along with the yoga pants-not that frequent and when she wears thongs she make sure that it is not visible to someone, say like jeans and strings.
Like the other day, when we gave the kids a ride to school, she was wearing leggings but she put a skirt on top (IDK how to describe it specifically) then when I dropped her back at home, when she went out of the car, I playfully squeeze her butt then I noticed she was wearing a thong then I told her how sexy she was and I appreciate it then I told her that I was so turn on, but she just dismissed me and told me, she just had a work out and needed to take a bath (I could care less about her bathing) she also said we'll have sex later because we were running late, I pretended to took of while she went inside the house but I still went inside the house to catch her, she already changed undies and was ready to take a bath although we end up having a quickie, same situation occurred. Most of the time I get a reasoning, why wear it when it'll be removed anyways.
We are still madly in love with each other, we make love almost everyday and sometimes 3x/day on good day. The times when she's the one asking sex, say she wants to have sex in the middle of the night or it'll be a second round, she'll just ran her hands all over my body, caress or kiss me etc.. then there's time that I'm dead tired but I never say no, NEVER but of course it'll take a little time to be awaken and the first thing I check is if she's wearing lingerie, I told her that if only she wears the lingerie then wakes me up, then she does not need to the work. there were also times she wanted to have sex on places that I've never thought conducive like on her clinic, I've ended up missing the cues, again why not wear thong then there's no need for cues and signal
I am hoping that women especially wives can tell me about their opinions on lingerie or thongs and how they feel about it and they're if they are wearing thongs that are clearly visible say white skirt and black thong? Does your husband prevent you or will tell you it's too obvious? for me, while it's a big turn on for guys to look at my wife, there's also a little conservative side in me that will tell her it's too much but it does not happen and my request for her to wear thongs happens mostly at nights, on a movie date, late night dinner at a fancy restaurants with rich guys, some oldies with younger wife or GF's that got far more revealing items than my request to my wife so for sure it'll be just normal for those guys and no high testosterone teens around or there's only few of them.
I'm not hoping all the time, I'm just hoping she wears it more frequently especially when she knows that we'll end up having sex.
Each Every sex or making love with my wife is special, my analogy is like receiving a gift, you know the thing/gift you'll receive will be special yet the giver will still wrap it with something nice.
again my issue here is not about lack of sex, lack of desire or poor performance but the lack of visual creativity or visual seduction.
Believe me, this isn't a make it or break it type of issue. It would just be the sprinkles on top of an already ginormous, delicious, hot fudge sundae. I'm sure I missed a few points, but I think you all get the general idea.
Any ideas, or am I just SOL?
My wife and I have been married for just over 8 years now, together for 14. I'd say we have a pretty awesome relationship - we're best friends basically. We occasionally have a disagreement, but those are really rare. We are financially stable, we always got time for our kids and ourselves despite the hectic schedule. we go on a date atleast 2x/ a week, i.e. a breakfast before going to work or late fancy dinner without the kids.
Either way.. let's talk about my matter at hand. I wish my wife would wear sexy lingerie a little more often. Maybe once in 3-4 months she will surprise me and she'll put on a tedy or a babydoll that I've picked up for her over the years but those times that she surprised mostly comes with an occasion OR If she ever wear Lingerie with no occasion or out of nothing, that is because of my request or I begged. I've been doing a lot of things for her like backrubs, massage, wash the dishes and I cook for her and the kids daily because I'm the better cook compared to her. Most of the time the subject is just never broached. The very rare times she surprises me, I always complimented her before during and after she noticed it also that the sex was more amazing! (I get so pump up)I also made sure to treat her very well after the sex like breakfast in bed, flowers when she wakes and more..
we are at our mid 30's, with 2 kids, we are not perfect physically but we are fit and are not overweight. So there's no body issues or self confidence probs.
She knows I love lingerie - I'm a sucker for thongs, strings, lace and pair it up with stockings and heels then I'll be in heaven! I'm the type of guy that like to slowly remove the clothing while making love, or I like to have sex with semi naked, a little shirt on or undies on the knees or half of the bra off, skirt up, string pulled etc..
Of course I've mentioned my affinity for lingerie before and I've bought her countless items - I used to buy her some lingerie for every holiday, on top of any other gifts I'd get her. In recognition also, she's bought thongs and strings by herself in which she never/rarely did during our early stages together (includes dating years).
The times she wears Lingerie, are times when we are about to have sex, say we go on a date, she will wear something nice but will just wear regular undies, not the granny type but not thong or strings, then when we go back to our room or say hotel if we are on a vacation, she'll undress and wear the thongs/strings. I mean why not wear it along with the nice sexy dress? Sometimes also I tell her to wear Lingerie before we have sex, most of the time she oblige but there's a smirk on her face. Despite her being compliant most of the time, it would have been better and I will feel better if I need not to tell her or to beg.
I've told her that if one night we went out she wore a dress or skirt and gave me a surprise peek of stockings and a garter belt underneath, I'd probably lose it right on the spot. Still nothing. Another time we were at the mall and I whispered to her to go pick out some shoes that she thought might be appropriate for the bedroom - We had fun picking them out but she's worn them maybe two or three times in a year.
We have talked about this multiple times, I've even pointed out to her about her co-workers, my co workers wearing thong (in a candid way of course, I'm not turned on if it is not my wife) and her reply was that she's aware of it and that scrubs really matches well with thongs but she does not want her patients attention on her in which I totally agree. so it is not like she does not want to wear thongs coz she does, like when she exercise in our mini gym at our basement she wears thongs (not all the time) because she finds it comfortable along with the yoga pants-not that frequent and when she wears thongs she make sure that it is not visible to someone, say like jeans and strings.
Like the other day, when we gave the kids a ride to school, she was wearing leggings but she put a skirt on top (IDK how to describe it specifically) then when I dropped her back at home, when she went out of the car, I playfully squeeze her butt then I noticed she was wearing a thong then I told her how sexy she was and I appreciate it then I told her that I was so turn on, but she just dismissed me and told me, she just had a work out and needed to take a bath (I could care less about her bathing) she also said we'll have sex later because we were running late, I pretended to took of while she went inside the house but I still went inside the house to catch her, she already changed undies and was ready to take a bath although we end up having a quickie, same situation occurred. Most of the time I get a reasoning, why wear it when it'll be removed anyways.
We are still madly in love with each other, we make love almost everyday and sometimes 3x/day on good day. The times when she's the one asking sex, say she wants to have sex in the middle of the night or it'll be a second round, she'll just ran her hands all over my body, caress or kiss me etc.. then there's time that I'm dead tired but I never say no, NEVER but of course it'll take a little time to be awaken and the first thing I check is if she's wearing lingerie, I told her that if only she wears the lingerie then wakes me up, then she does not need to the work. there were also times she wanted to have sex on places that I've never thought conducive like on her clinic, I've ended up missing the cues, again why not wear thong then there's no need for cues and signal
I am hoping that women especially wives can tell me about their opinions on lingerie or thongs and how they feel about it and they're if they are wearing thongs that are clearly visible say white skirt and black thong? Does your husband prevent you or will tell you it's too obvious? for me, while it's a big turn on for guys to look at my wife, there's also a little conservative side in me that will tell her it's too much but it does not happen and my request for her to wear thongs happens mostly at nights, on a movie date, late night dinner at a fancy restaurants with rich guys, some oldies with younger wife or GF's that got far more revealing items than my request to my wife so for sure it'll be just normal for those guys and no high testosterone teens around or there's only few of them.
I'm not hoping all the time, I'm just hoping she wears it more frequently especially when she knows that we'll end up having sex.
Each Every sex or making love with my wife is special, my analogy is like receiving a gift, you know the thing/gift you'll receive will be special yet the giver will still wrap it with something nice.
again my issue here is not about lack of sex, lack of desire or poor performance but the lack of visual creativity or visual seduction.
Believe me, this isn't a make it or break it type of issue. It would just be the sprinkles on top of an already ginormous, delicious, hot fudge sundae. I'm sure I missed a few points, but I think you all get the general idea.
Any ideas, or am I just SOL?
