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If it was my W and she made one mistake, I would forgive and give another chance. If she does it again, which your W did, she's out on her ass, and SHE can pay that 5-figure bill that this whole thing incurred. She once told you that "infidelity =divorce", and now she sees that you are a paper tiger and that she has gotten away with it. What happens the next time she feels a little unloved and unappreciated?
Does she say to herself:
"No, I can't do this, I've hurt my H before, and he was so wonderful and patient with me, I just can't hurt him again."
Or, does she say:
"Yes, I want my happiness, it comes first, I don't care who I crush to get it, I've gotten away with it before, and that spineless jackass will just forgive me again while I have the real man I've always prayed for, and when that peters out, I'll just go back to my wimp H and get what I need and he will pay for, and I'll just feed him a bunch of lies and tell him what he wants to hear until I meet another macho stud, and I will have the best of both worlds, and my clueless, spineless H will let me have my cake and eat it too every time!"
Does she say to herself:
"No, I can't do this, I've hurt my H before, and he was so wonderful and patient with me, I just can't hurt him again."
Or, does she say:
"Yes, I want my happiness, it comes first, I don't care who I crush to get it, I've gotten away with it before, and that spineless jackass will just forgive me again while I have the real man I've always prayed for, and when that peters out, I'll just go back to my wimp H and get what I need and he will pay for, and I'll just feed him a bunch of lies and tell him what he wants to hear until I meet another macho stud, and I will have the best of both worlds, and my clueless, spineless H will let me have my cake and eat it too every time!"
