Dude you didnt do this, she did, your kids will understand when they’re older and respect you for it. You can still be a good dad and her a good mum. It’s possible that she woke up, but be honest with yourself, how likely is that? Also what happens when she falls asleep again?It's freaking hard with the kids involved. I keep flip flopping on what to do. Everything you guys are saying is right, then i hear her and i start thinking that this could be different. And i'll never know if she's telling me the truth about how things ended. She says she "woke up" one day and realized how much she scrwed up, but there's no way to tell if that's true or if the OM dumped her. Really, that's just a small piece to this puzzle anyway.
The poster that asked if i would date this person without our history and just knowing what she's capable of...that hit hard. I guess at the end of the day it is just really hard to break off this relationship knowing the shockwaves it will cause, mostly with our kids. Part of me feels like i owe it to them to give this a shot and do things differently.
I have said this before, but bares repeating, personal change is really really hard, you might think she’s going to be different, you might think you’re going to be all no more mr nice guy, but the old patterns will reassert themselves without massive effort on both your parts.
Are you willing to gamble your life on a known loser? I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but you have been a respect worthy guy in your handling of things so far. So I think you have the strength to follow this through and be happier and stronger as a result.
it’s your life at the end of the day, so take the advice with as much salt as you want, and if things don’t work out, it still won’t throw any shade on you