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Long story short.
My stepson told his counselor at school that I was abusive. So, the school had to report me because they are mandatory reporters.
Cops and CPS show up at our house and I got the "keep your hands where I can see them..." from the Cops!
The CPS case worker talked to him and she said there was no evidence of abuse.
My wife and I sat down and talked to him to figure out why he lied...
My stepson..."Because I don't like you and I want my Mom to be with my Dad".
I was VERY patient and did not yell at him, reaffirming to him that he could be honest. But I was completely taken back with what this 8 year old was saying. He deliberately lied about me to his counselor because he KNEW that the cops would be involved, and he thought that the cops would just take him out of the home and take him straight to his Dads.
2 weeks later he ran away from school, and lied to me and his Mother about seeing some "man with a knife" at school, and a "scarey man at home has been sneaking into his room at night"...I have no doub that if he was not grounded from lying the first time, he would have told his counselor AGAIN that I was that scarey guy with a knife in his room!!
What can I do to help this kid realize I'm on his side...or should I walk away? I'm trying REALLY hard to get this kid into a friendship with me, but he is VERY sneaky and manulipative towards me and his mother.
My stepson told his counselor at school that I was abusive. So, the school had to report me because they are mandatory reporters.
Cops and CPS show up at our house and I got the "keep your hands where I can see them..." from the Cops!
The CPS case worker talked to him and she said there was no evidence of abuse.
My wife and I sat down and talked to him to figure out why he lied...
My stepson..."Because I don't like you and I want my Mom to be with my Dad".
I was VERY patient and did not yell at him, reaffirming to him that he could be honest. But I was completely taken back with what this 8 year old was saying. He deliberately lied about me to his counselor because he KNEW that the cops would be involved, and he thought that the cops would just take him out of the home and take him straight to his Dads.
2 weeks later he ran away from school, and lied to me and his Mother about seeing some "man with a knife" at school, and a "scarey man at home has been sneaking into his room at night"...I have no doub that if he was not grounded from lying the first time, he would have told his counselor AGAIN that I was that scarey guy with a knife in his room!!
What can I do to help this kid realize I'm on his side...or should I walk away? I'm trying REALLY hard to get this kid into a friendship with me, but he is VERY sneaky and manulipative towards me and his mother.