No it won't. I hope you are not hedging all your bets on it. I'm quite surprised at the number of times "Polygraph" comes up on TAM. The scientific community can't agree on its accuracy. If you don't believe me, look it up on the internet. There is a reason why courts don't allow it without tight stipulations.
Don't you think you are beyond the "Did they or didn't they" already? Your wife is deep in an affair. We are talking baby making deep. What makes you think she can dump him at the drop of a hat because you demand it? As some of the other posters have rightly pointed out, she is still talking to friends like the other man is still part of her life. That doesn't sound like its just going to blow over buddy.
I know you believe the timeline says that the baby is yours. How can you be so sure? It's your perogative to wait for DNA until after birth. I hope you have the strength for that.
I'm not trying to beat on you. It just looks your wife is treating you like a chump and you are letting her.
I don't think it is a fair assessment that I am letting her treat me like a chump. I do not have blinders on. I have posted a consistent play-by-play to what is taking place in my life. I am not choosing the words that I use in these posts to sugar coat her actions or what is going on. I have chosen my words to try and be concise in my posts.
When I say things like "wasn't just kissing, it was just about everything else" what I mean is:
- his penis did not penetrate her vagina, but his fingers did
- no oral sex, but mutual masturbation until ejaculation
- heavy kissing and touching everywhere
Did I get this from VARS? No, this information I received from her. Can I be sure that this is everything? No. But the above is pretty explicit and involves almost "everything else." Also, I'm aware that "sex" means more than intercourse. But for the sake of posting on this board, I used the term "sex" to mean "intercourse."
At this point, the polygraph is just an exercise in principle. I'm not going to learn anything through the polygraph that is vastly different from where we stand right now. The questions that I'm planning on using:
(1) During the weekend of May 10, 2014 did you have sexual intercourse with XXX?
(2) From June 2010 to May 2014, did you have a sexual encounter with anyone other than your husband?
(3) Is your husband the father of your child?
(4) Since May 14, 2014 have you had any contact with XXX?
People keep posting about getting a paternity test prior to my name going on the birth certificate. Let me reiterate one more time: this doesn't matter in the state that I reside. I'm not hemming / hawing as to whether I should do this or not...I'm doing it. But it legally does not help me to do this now. Could I do the procedure now and have the knowledge? Sure. But I still have to jump through the same legal hoops once the child is born and get another test done...so I'm just choosing not to do the test 2x. No matter what my actions now, my name is going on that birth certificate whether rightly or wrongly. In the state that I reside, when a child is conceived in a legal marriage between a man / woman the husband is presumed to be the child's father. Why? The STATE is "looking after the best interest of the child" and is doing so by establishing "a financial custodian" of the child immediately after birth (ie: the husband). My name goes onto the birth certificate until THE STATE can prove that I am not financially responsible for the child.
If the child ends up not being mine, then I can sue the real father for any financial assistance that I provided to the child from birth until his paternity is established.