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Ive been married for 2 years and we have been really happy. We've always been happy. We used to say that we were like best friends, our sex life was amazing. My wife got pregnant about 5 months ago and we had it all planned out - we were flying. She had a miscarriage at approx 10wks and it destroyed her (This is the 2nd miscarriage the first one was really early like 3/4 wks). She didnt take enough time off work but she was unbelievably upset. I was really upset too but didnt talk about things, i felt that i didnt want to put more weight on her shoulders. I also felt that we could try again and in the end everything would be OK. We dont see each other enough - we both work away from home (i saw her for 24hrs in the last 4 wks) and i think that this has really started to take its toll. My wifes feelings have changed towards me. The intimacy has gone - about a month ago i asked her if she thought about leaving me and she said yes she had thought about it but didnt do it. This has ripped my insides out. I have talked to her and an awful lot of things came out that blew me away, I havent spent enough time on 'us' and ive concentrated too much on working on the house on my time off. This is true i have but i only did this because i thought it was making her happy, if she told me how she felt i would have stopped. Ive made changes over the last few months. Its not been easy in fact Im finding it impossible but its because of the time we are apart. I see her on the weekends. We talk on the phone through the week and she says how much she misses me and we tell each other we love each other and i feel like Im on a high on my way home - but then i feel disappointed rejected sad hurt lonely when there is no intimacy. It came to a head last week but to be honest every weekend seemed to be ruined because there was always a crisis talk to be had, i couldnt help it though because i had to let my feelings be known. This last weekend was better and my wife really made the effort and we talked quite calmly. I asked her about going to counselling but she doesnt want to. She says she knows she has changed but she does not know why. She agrees it happened after the miscarriage. She says she doesnt see me enough. She is leaving her job after christmas and she will be at home full time so we will see more of each other and she's planning a holiday for march time for the two of us. She tells me she loves me and feels guilty and horrible for making me feel like I do. But she says she doesnt know why things are like this. She says we should ride this out until February when she quits her job and then if things are no better then we should get help (counselling). She thinks things will change when we see more of each other. We've always worked away but its never been as bad as the last 12 months for not seeing each other. I feel so lost at the minute. I am so sad at the way things are - i cant believe it. If somebody told me this would happen 5 months ago i would have laughed in there face. I felt my marriage was bulletproof. I also feel like a *****. I have cried in front of my wife on a few occasions. I have become needy and clingy - i asked her if she was seeing somebody else (she went crazy) I didnt even think she had i just cant make sense of it all. I have never been jealous ever but now i am over stupid things and i hate myself for it I have said a few times 'but you said you thought about leaving me' and she went crazy. She said 'i had just lost a baby i didnt know what i wanted'. This made me feel like ****. Every time i try and talk about the way i feel i seem to upset her but i cant hold it in because holding it in I am the incredible sulk and the weekend is ruined. Its a vicious circle. . I I feel that the way I have been acting is making things worse. Thanks for listening.