What I don't understand is are you going to now go back to the same church or is it a different one? Good luck to you I understand that this cannot be easy to cope with. I hope you two are able to work through this and move on.
I have to ask did the church tell her she is not allowed to attend anymore? I can understand you are relieved in a way that it is now out in the open but I wish that your gut feeling had been wrong. Well good luck to you both.